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🌈 NBA Hall of Famer DWYANE WADE, age 42, and his daughter Zaya, 17 (who came out as trans at age 12), launched Translatable for LGBT+ young people (primarily of colour) to send in photos, poems and “uncurated raw expression” (eg doodles). It’s also an educational resource for parents and families. Dwyane says:

“I’m so very proud of the daughter I’ve had the opportunity to raise. She has been my biggest educator and inspiration and what it means to be true to you.

The question was presented to her: ‘If you have one

thing you want to see change in this community, what would it be?’

For her, it goes right to parents. She wanted to create a space that felt safe for parents and their kids. That’s what Translatable is and it’s her baby”



WORDS Dwyane Wade And Daughter Zaya Launch Translatable In Support Of Trans Youth (Vibe, 23/5/24)

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• “We’re literally learning from our child. I remember my child being scared to talk to me. I think I’m this dad that’s like: ‘Tell me anything! I’m a cool dad.’ I had to go look myself in the mirror & ask: ‘What is it about my masculinity that has my child afraid?’”

• “People feel that because I have a trans daughter I had this traumatic experience. Zaya has been Zaya from day one. Nothing has changed in how Zaya shows up”

• “You hope as a parent that your kids feel comfortable to communicate with you when they’re confused. But you have to create the environment for that”

• “When our child comes home with a question or issue, it’s our job as parents to listen, to give them the best information & feedback we can. And that doesn’t change because sexuality is involved”

• “I started standing up and having conversations, very uncomfortably. I didn’t know a lot of the verbiage, the information. I was just looking at other parents like: ‘Why are y’all not loving and accepting, regardless?’

We’ve had real tear-jerkers when a father says: ‘Because of you, I’m able to accept what I did not know. I learned to accept my child.’ Like, that right there, man.

The power in ‘seeing is believing’ was way bigger than I could imagine when Zaya came home and told me she was gay at 8 years old”


• “If I just go off of what I read and hear, it’s all bad. But if I go off of what I experience in the world, the conversations I have and the ways I’m able to connect with people, then everything is not bad.

 

The world’s going to tell us it’s not thriving but this is a community that is THRIVING with acceptance! Thriving in all these areas”

 

• “What you want to see from us is what love and acceptance look like. You want to understand what you don’t understand, so you want information. These are things we wanted and we put that together in Translatable”

• “It was a process to sit down with our daughter, find out who she is and what she likes and not put something on her. As parents, we put our hopes and fears on our kids. With Zaya, we decided to listen to her. And she’s walking us on the journey.


• “I’m just a parent doing what a good parent should do”

• “The learning never stops”

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🌈 LGBT+ advocate ZAYA WADE, age 17, and her dad, ex-basketball star  Dwyane Wade, 42, launched Translatable to give LGBTQ+ young people a safe space to express themselves, with resources for parents.

Zaya says: “Beauty standards don’t mean anything. They don’t matter anymore. Beauty is about expressing yourself the way you want to.

Being myself is the best technique. I can be truthful and honest with myself and therefore with other people. That helps better everyone’s connections”

 


WORDS All About Dwyane Wade’s Daughter Zaya Wade (People, 24/5/24)

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• “My first experience of magic was laying down my first wig, rocking out a good pump & saying: “I’m here.” I was able to see myself in a way I had always wanted to.


[One thing younger trans kids should know] You’re not alone! As a child at school you’re like: ‘I’m trans and I don’t see many trans people, so I feel isolated. Different.’

But the trans community is forever growing. Seeing their experience is accessible because of social media. Other people can inspire you.

[On supporting a trans friend] Be there – as a shoulder to cry on or a sounding board. Learn about your friend. There are other ways, like researching. A lot of people don’t know what it means to be trans and even if they do, they don’t know what it means to that specific person. There are a lot of new fears they could have. Support them through anything: negativity, transphobic hate, the fear of coming out to people they love”

• “I tend not to interact with social media in an excessive way. Boundaries are super healthy. On Instagram I have a filtered comment section so only the people I know love me can comment, because unnecessary negativity causes stress. Stress gives you acne and wrinkles, and no one likes that!

[On being authentic] Protect your peace. Discovering a part of yourself and having the courage to share it is stressful. You’ve gone through a life-changing experience and you deserve peace.

I’m a microphone. I am my own person, but as a role model I try to use my personal experience to broadcast the positives and negatives in life, because a lot of LGBTQ+ youth go unrecognised in every way.

So much can be done and changed. Gen Z is so special. It’s inspiring to know that we are a new generation. Being able to educate the next generation so they can educate the next one – we can make strides to normalise acceptance through education.

[On a mantra to live by] I’m me and not a single person on this planet can change me”

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🌈 Singer MADONNA, age 65, has long been a gay icon…

“The Queen of Pop last week paid tribute on Instagram to the queer community and thanked them for their support. Madge interspersed clips of herself with photos of Pride marches and protests.

She posted: “When Truth or Dare was released in 1991 I had no idea it was going to cause such a stir 🌈🌈🌈 But that could be said of most of the things I do!!

I simply wanted to capture the world. I was living in – and share it with the world.

I am forever grateful to the gay community that has always supported me from day one!!!

When I arrived in New York for the first time in 1979 – They made an awkward girl from Michigan feel like she fit in, like she wasn’t a freak and. That it was OK to be different. I am forever indebted.

In this increasingly chaotic world, we are living in. I will never stop fighting for diversity, inclusiveness and equal rights for all!!!

 

DON’T HIDE YOUR PRIDE! 🏳️‍🌈!Let’s celebrate this month and every month ! 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈”
 

WORDS Madonna Sends a Reminder to Her LGBTQ+ Fans for Pride Month: “Don’t Hide Your Pride” (Billboard, 6/6/24)

 

ABOUT MADONNA’s 2023 CELEBRATION TOUR

 

“Celebration is Madonna’s most radical concert statement in support of the LGBTQ+ community since her 1990 Blond Ambition tour. Every concert has included LGBTQ elements and tributes, but only twice has queer and trans culture been the focus.

 

At a time when LGBTQ rights are under threat, this show embraces and reassures the gay and trans community and introduces audiences to the world as she sees it.

 

The concert is post-gender. Women have shaved heads, men long hair; women wear trousers, men dresses; both perform topless and yet there is nothing prurient about seeing a woman’s breasts. In the world Madonna envisions, a person isn’t either/or, they are whatever they want to be.

 

The dance clubs Madonna emerged from in 1980s New York were palaces of inclusion and freedom. Here, she is surrounded by massive photos of people she loved and lost to Aids. ‘No Fear’ appears on a dancer’s torso & on screens. Pride flags proliferate.

 

Forty years into her career, her advice remains: have courage & express yourself” 🌈

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🌈 Media mogul OPRAH WINFREY, age 70, wearing a sweater with a rainbow on it, said last week on Instagram…

“It was 35 years ago that my younger brother, Jeffrey Lee, died from Aids. He was 29. The year was 1989 and the world was an extremely cruel place, not just for people suffering from Aids, but also for LGBTQ people in general.

I often think if he’d lived, he’d be so amazed at how much the world has changed, that there actually is gay marriage and a Pride month.

How different his life might have been had he lived in a world that saw and appreciated him for who he was rather than attempting to shame him for his sexuality.

I believe every single person has the right to love who they want to love and be the person they most want to be.

My hope for you is that you are living a life that feels authentic to you and that you have the support around you to do so, no matter your sexuality.

 

Whether or not you’re celebrating Pride this month or always, I wish for you the continued freedom to rise to your truest, highest expression of yourself as a human being.”

 

In her GLAAD Awards acceptance speech in March she said: “Growing up at the time we did, in the community we did, we didn’t have the language to understand or speak about sexuality and gender in the way we do now.

 

I didn’t know how deeply my brother internalised the shame he felt about being gay. I wish he could have lived to witness these liberated times and to be here with me tonight.

All the years of the Oprah Show, for me, were about sharing stories that helped people be their authentic selves. I know that is the truest form of what it means to be free, to have personal freedom, to be able to fully be who you are”

 

WORDS Oprah Winfrey reveals her brother Jeffrey died of AIDS in the 1980s as she shares moving Pride month post: “The world was an extremely cruel place” (Daily Mail, 5/6/24)

 

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“What I’ve learned over the years of interviewing over 35,000 people one on one is that every single person wants the same thing – and that is the desire and need to feel seen and know that what we say matters and to know that we matter”

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Actor RAFE SPALL, age 41 and dad-of-almost-4, wrote an article in April for men’s magazine The Rake…

“The objectification of women is a desperate issue that needs to be addressed. I’m appalled by it. By the way women are described in tabloids, the way their bodies are objectified.

As a male actor, I know there is a great deal of pressure to look a certain way. We fetishise weight loss in men in a way that is not good.

Of course my body’s an object! As an actor, your body is an object. And if you get told that a trainer has been provided for you, you feel an obligation to look as good as you can. For me to have a certain body type requires great sacrifice and calorie deprivation.

If you ever see anyone with their shirt off, they have trained 6 times a week, probably twice a day and had a nutritionist. And it gives people an unrealistic idea of masculinity because it’s actually unobtainable.

Part of what makes everyday life fun and sensual is the act of eating. If I’m supposed to be very thin and muscular, the chances are I’ve dedicated a lot of energy to creating that look. It’s not necessarily healthy. When I look very muscular, it means I’ve done very little eating and enjoying of life”

WORDS Rafe Spall: “Men’s bodies in film give an unrealistic idea of masculinity” (The Independent, 18/5/24)

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• “I feel bad every time I talked about my weight loss as being positive. It’s a harmful narrative. It’s hurt me. Anyone with any perceived weight issue, it’s gonna make them feel crap. We shouldn’t celebrate it.

People ask me about it, because it’s fascinating, but the shape of your body is meaningless. It hasn’t made me any happier or more unhappy: I’m the same person with the same heart, soul and views. Regardless of my f***ing waist size.

At school I got called fat every day and it was like a small cut on me that I still live with. Traumatic. But from the time of awakening as a human being, to realise that you have a body, you are a body, to have that coincide with everyone realising that your body is horrible… you don’t know that being fat is wrong, that just because you’ve got a little belly it makes you a terrible person. The narrative around weight loss adds to it”

• “Who lays out the parameters of what’s deemed attractive? If you are a young actor, when you take your shirt off, you have to be jacked out. Do you find it attractive? None of the women I know do. Which is good, because I would never have had sex otherwise”

• “I cry every day. Every. Single. Day”

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TV presenter ANGELA SCANLON, age 40 and mum of Marnie, 4, and Ruby, 6, says…

“Having red hair was tricky in my teens. I started to believe it wasn’t the type of thing boys liked.

In the 90s and early 00s, there was an unhealthily singular ideal of beauty. Magazines were covered in tanned blondes like Britney. I didn’t fit into that glamazon, sexy archetype.

I struggled with the transition from girlhood into adolescence. Friends were thrilled about breasts appearing and other rites of passage, but I felt the opposite of excited. When I started to develop a new body, it was a confusing, lonely time.

[On being a mum] I realised I had to address the relentless whipcracking I’d been doing internally. I didn’t want to pass that on to my daughter – the little compassion I had for myself and the striving for perfection.

Motherhood helped me re-engage with the childhood version of myself. When I got married I wore black shoes in a nod to my rebellious 6-year-old self. The one who wanted to stand out and be her own person”

WORDS Angela Scanlon looks back: “I thought motherhood would make my career disappear overnight” (Guardian, 8/6/24)
 


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[On having anorexia and bulimia for 15 years from her teens] “It was my coping mechanism. I kept my eating disorder hidden for a long time. It was isolating. I had gone completely in on myself. People around me were kind of aware, but it’s impossible to help somebody if they’re not open to it.

Family occasions are often the most difficult: people’s eyes are on your fork and you’re plotting your exit. The lies are also where the shame comes from. Trying to cover your tracks. It’s a lonely place to live.

Birthing a baby, then watching this little girl revel in her own gorgeous rolls made me realise how detached I was from my body. The one I’d punished, overfed, underfed and didn’t love. The one I’d been abusing for years.

I was also aware of how judgmental I was of other people’s bodies and I didn’t want her to feel she was under scrutiny from anyone. That was a big motivation to look at how I related to my body. I have massive regret for the torture I put it through”
 

• “I feel it now with my own daughters: there’s a kind of level of control you wish you had over your kids and you realise you don’t”

 

• “My eating disorder gave me something I could control all day, every day. It seduced me into believing it was me who held the wheel” 

 

• [About being on Strictly Come Dancing in 2023] “I had an 18-month-old baby and my pelvic floor, among other parts of my body, were not ready”

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Actor GEORGE MACKAY, age 32 and a dad of 2, on playing an incel in The Beast…

“‘I thought incel was a tech term because they gamed or something – I didn’t realise it meant involuntary celibate.

The fears my character had, being a teenager and being like: ‘What if I kiss someone and it’s bad? What if I’m not good at sex?’ – I identified with those worries.

I had quite a traditional sense of masculinity in terms of the men I admired growing up.’

About his dad working backstage in theatre while his mum, a costume designer, ran their home: ‘Him being away a lot was a physical representation of how hard he worked. I’ve always thought that’s what a man does.’

In 2002 MacKay got his first big job in Peter Pan, filmed in Australia. He’d never seen his dad cry: ‘I was 10, and when he took us to the airport, he wept. I remember being rocked by seeing my dad cry.

My mum says: “The best thing about your dad is how in touch with his feminine side he is.”

That sensitivity is a quality MacKay reveres. In his work he’s been exploring what it means to be a man ‘because my role as a man is changing massively’.

 

As a new parent, he’s noticed ‘a complete recalibration of what’s positive about masculinity in the last decade’. Strength, leadership and endurance are no longer thought of as a man’s domain, he says. He cites his wife, mother, sister and agent as examples, then worries he’s coming off as patronising.

 

He’s been wondering why he feels the need to be a certain way as a father: ‘Now that I’ve experienced how sometimes work can be easier than your personal life, I can see my mum was a leader too’”

 

WORDS “I identified with those worries”: George MacKay on masculinity, misogyny and playing an incel (Guardian, 20/5/24)

 

MORE FROM MCKAY

 

• "I had this incredible opening up when my family came about”

• “I had a family 2 years ago. That made me ask tons of questions like: ‘[I’m] bringing wee ones into the world – I want to be solid in myself… in terms of what it is to be a man.’ And it’s like: ‘What makes a person?’

 

Leaving adolescence and carving your own path, you become responsible for those choices. You’re no longer your parents’ kid or this school’s student. You are you”

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Actor RAFE SPALL, age 41 and dad to Lena, 13; Rex, 11; a son, 9, and a child on the way…

“People are always very curious about sex scenes. I’ve actually now said that I don’t want to do them anymore. I’ve done loads. Too many.

[Are they nice to film?] They’re nice if you like 50 blokes watching you pretend to have sex. If that’s your thing!

Also I’ve had my willy out too many times. I couldn’t sleep one night and I counted my sex scenes. I’ve done about 18. I have had my willy out a lot. Too much!

I’ve stopped. I’m not doing it anymore. I’ve got kids in the playground. They are the age when kids talk to them about it.

It is not good. It is wholeheartedly inelegant to get your willy out!

You do a sex scene and this is how I pay my mortgage. This is what I exchange for cash.

A high point of the sex scenes in my life: my number one was probably with David Walliams in Frankie Howerd: Rather You Than Me (2008).

Part of his bit in life, his shtick, is being flirtatious. And very fluid across the genders. But when it came to the sex scene, he was all scared. I had done so many of them. I w**ked him off, I had to kiss him and we had to do all sorts of things. I had to get in the bath with him.

 

When you do a sex scene with a woman, I am always acutely aware that you are in a room with predominantly men, so all my concentration goes into making it comfortable for her. But with David it was like: ‘F**king come here, you big dish. Get over there!’”

 

WORDS Rafe Spall reveals the reason he refuses to film any more sex scenes after appearing more than 18 (Daily Mail, 22/5/24)

 

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• “Fatherhood is the hardest, most important thing I’ve done. My generation caters to their kids’ every need. We’ll see how that comes out. I was raised with a lot of love, a feeling that I could achieve anything & a great deal of laughter. I’m trying to pass that on”

 

• “In Wuthering Heights Heathcliff says: ‘Don’t you love me?’ & Cathy says: ‘I don’t love you. You ARE me. I am you.’ When I think about my kids, I think about that sort of indescribable love”

 

• “Being a parent changes you & your outlook on the world. You think about your kids, you cry; you see another kid, you cry”

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Actor DEMI MOORE, age 61, made headlines for being naked onscreen…

“The Substance by Coralie Fargeat is body horror with a feminist angle. Exploring toxic masculinity and beauty-standards themes, it centres on a drug that turns people into a ‘better version’ of themselves.

Moore stars as a Hollywood star turned TV host who spawns a younger version of herself, played by Margaret Qualley. Some seriously violent and explicit scenes involve them being naked.

Moore said about the ‘level of vulnerability and rawness required to tell the story’: ‘It was a very vulnerable experience and required a lot of sensitivity and conversations.

I felt safe with [Qualley]. We obviously were quite close – naked – and we got a lot of levity at how absurd those situations were.’

Moore said their ‘naked, no-holds-barred bloody fight’ and a scene in which they study their bodies were ‘necessary’, adding: ‘I look for things that push me out of my comfort zone, the opportunity to make a better person and actor. This touched on themes we all face: validation and belonging. Doing the movie takes us to extremes. I came out with greater acceptance of myself’”

WORDS Demi Moore Opened Up About The “Vulnerability And Rawness” Of Shooting Full-Frontal Nudity With Margaret Qualley For Their Forthcoming Horror Movie, The Substance (BuzzFeed, 20/5/24)
 


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• “It just irritates me that people are constantly saying how much I’ve spent on plastic surgery. I have had something done but not on my face. Maybe one day I’ll go under the knife.

The film is about this male perspective of the idealised woman that we as women have bought into, not what somebody’s doing to us.

We are changing. We are living the change”

• [Comparing the nudity to a “powerful exposed moment” in Good Luck To You, Leo Grande (2022) when Emma Thompson “is just looking at herself as she is”] “It’s the smallest part of the film.

We had to do these moments of switching, on this cold tile floor and we’re both nude and laying there. Knowing that we had each other, looking out for each other, it’s impossible not to find the absurdity of it humorous. I said: ‘Thank God we like each other, otherwise this would be really awkward!’”

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Writer/director CORALIE FARGEAT, age 48, on her “feminist body-horror film” The Substance, which got a 13-minute standing ovation at Cannes…

“The violence in the movie is a metaphor, Fargeat says, for the violence – emotional & physical – that men inflict on women, and that women inflict on themselves, in their pursuit of unrealistic ideals of beauty.


She shows it ‘in an extreme way because I think this violence is very extreme’.

Fargeat says: ‘I don’t know any woman who doesn’t have an eating disorder or some other thing that they do that does violence to their body’”

WORDS Demi Moore Addresses Extreme Nudity, Violence in Cannes Shocker The Substance (Hollywood Reporter, 20/5/24)



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• [About the #MeToo undercurrent at Cannes] “There is a lot of work to do and it is progressing very slowly, but it’s time that someone has the courage to speak. It’s a little stone in the huge wall we still have to build regarding this issue and I hope my film will be one of the stones. That’s really what I intended to do with it. We need a bigger revolution.

Body horror is the perfect vehicle to express the violence all these women’s issues are about.

I wanted the lead character to go to a woman who incarnates a myth & symbol, as  Demi Moore does as an actress”

• [On being inspired to do the film when she was in her 40s] “I had the feeling: ‘Now I’m going to disappear – it’s done.’

 

When you reflect on this, you say: ‘What leads me to think like that? I’m an educated person, a feminist, and still all those ideas have found a way to penetrate my brain.’

At all ages, women are kind of led to feel we’re not right. When you’re younger, you feel like maybe you’re too fat or your ass isn’t the right way or your boobs aren’t big enough. When you get older, it’s like: oh, you have wrinkles. There is always something commented about your body.

[Hypersexualisation and societal expectations] can lead women to have an extreme violence towards ourselves.

 

#MeToo is the first little step towards change. It’s 3,000 years of society organised in a certain way and it will be hard to change. I’m really happy the movie is one little stone in the wall for that change’”

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Actor KATE WINSLET, age 48, on daughters…

“‘As a mother of girls, you have to tell them all the time that they are fabulous & beautiful because they are so inundated by negativity all the time.

You have to tell them every single day. And you have to be very careful about how you speak about yourself. You can never say anything negative about yourself. You have to say: “I look fabulous today.” Mario Testino used to say: “Today I’m looking faaabulous!”’

About her kids never having had social media, she says: ‘We’ve been very lucky. At the beginning they’d say: “All our friends’ party invitations are on Facebook.” And I’d say: “You are a kind, interesting person & if they want you to come, they can phone you up.” And they still don’t have it.’

She feels so strongly about the issue that in 2022 she teamed up with her daughter Mia, age 23, to make

I Am Ruth, an improvised drama about a mother struggling to cope with her daughter’s depressive spiral into an online world. 

When it won a BAFTA, Winslet used her acceptance speech to call for action from tech companies, saying: ‘Please eradicate harmful content. We don’t want it. We want our children back. We don’t want to lie awake terrified by our children’s mental health. And to any young person who might be listening, who feels they are trapped in an unhealthy world: please ask for help.’

Winslet says: ‘People still come up to me in the street & I can tell it’s going to be about I Am Ruth. It happened here in Cornwall last week: a woman came up to me in a car park & sobbed and she didn’t even need to say it was about that. I just held her. It’s about making people feel understood.’

Her advice for parents struggling with how to stem the tide of smartphones & social media taking over childhood: ‘Get a group of parents from school together, tell them how you’re feeling & you’ll probably find you won’t be the only one thinking it.

I remember saying to the other parents: “Why don’t we all be the meanies together by not letting them have phones?” There was power in numbers’”


WORDS “This Is The First Time I’ve Been Myself.” Kate Winslet On Cornwall, Parenting And The Pressures Of Social Media

(Grazia, 26/4/24)

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Actor ZENDAYA, age 27 – of Euphoria, Spider-Man & Dune fame – stars in the R-rated arthouse Challengers movie…

“Zendaya is a teen tennis prodigy lusted after by 2 other players. In one steamy scene, they start kissing her but end up in a makeout session of their own.

Zendaya says: ‘I’ve been playing 16-year-olds since I was 16. So it was interesting playing parts of my life I haven’t experienced yet: I’ve not gotten married or had a child’’



WORDS Challengers Heats Up: How Zendaya’s Star Power and a Sexy Love Triangle Could Give Gen Z Its Next Movie Obsession (Variety, 24/4/24)



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• “I’ve been asked: ‘What was it like shooting the sex scenes?’ from people who saw the movie & I’m like: ‘What sex scenes?’ Tennis is the sex in the movie. It holds a metaphor for desires, passion, pain, anger, frustration.

I said to my family: ‘Walking into this, if you can’t handle the heat, get out of the kitchen.’ I forewarned them”

• [On her inspiration for the part] “The mothers in my life. I’m definitely inspired by how they tackle & take on motherhood.
I have many nieces & nephews. They’re like my borrowed children: I get to have fun & give them back”

• “My beauty icons are the women in my life. My mom didn’t wear make-up. I don’t think she knew that, to me, it was empowering that she didn’t care. But I was super into it, so I’d go to my grandma’s house & she’d have all the good make-up. I got to see how women are able to navigate within the space of beauty. It’s self-defined”

• “My mom wasn’t into the quintessential glamorous things. She focused most of her energy on being a teacher, but to me she was still extremely beautiful. I wanted to be like her. My grandmother liked getting dressed up & wearing heels. I learned to embrace all of it”

• [On being a Lancôme ambassador at 22] “It’s for a WOMAN Zendaya, finding out what that means. My voice can carry, so I need to be wise about how I use it”

• “I don’t know what it’s like to have had Instagram be a part of my life from the beginning of time. It’s a different beast.

Young people, we all kind of have this pressure: we feel we need to fix everything. It’s just how we choose to push through it”

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Former child actor turned chat show host DREW BARRYMORE – age 49 and mum of daughters Frankie, 9, and Olive, 11 – bedazzled her face with glitter to launch #TheFaceof10 campaign from Dove to address the TikTok trend of tweens using anti-ageing skincare products…

“Barrymore, who ‘grew up in a makeup chair’, says in an Insta post young girls are ‘obsessed’ with skincare regimens, adding: ‘You will never anti-age. If you’re lucky, you’ll actually get to age. Young girls don’t need anything anti-ageing.’

Dove sounds the alarm on ‘children & tweens rushing to buy & use anti-ageing skincare products… It’s a gateway to increased anxiety, with nearly 1 in 4 girls aged 10-17 feeling judged about how their skin looks.’

Its Gen A Anti-Aging Talk is on TikTok & elsewhere. Calling out unrealistic standards & harmful imagery on social media, Dove uses the taglines ‘When did Retinol replace face paint?’ and ‘Is it even possible to look 10 years younger at 10?’

Professionals blame the ‘toxic culture’ of the digital environment. Dr Phillippa Diedrichs says: ‘If young girls feel pressure to use skincare products containing highly active anti-ageing ingredients, it could be damaging to their body confidence & self-esteem in the long term, not to mention their skin health.’

 

In her Insta post Barrymore, whose cool mom cred may carry considerable weight with the target demo, leads with her trademark positivity in saying: ‘We have to figure out messaging that empowers women & lets young girls know they have so much road ahead of them.’

To Gen A she says: ‘You’re already beautiful. Let’s be playful. Let’s never fear getting older – because that is a privilege’”

 


WORDS Drew Barrymore Calls Aging “A Privilege” in Dove Campaign includes 2-minute reel (AdWeek, 7/3/24) 

 


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• “Hollywood’s priority to stay thin, look young & be picture perfect revolts me”

• “I was the anti-workout girl. You turn 40. You have 2 kids & oh wow. I realised I have to do something. It’s almost a mental game. I’m not looking to be bikini-ready. I want to pick up my kids without breaking my back”

• “I used to be a free spirit! Now I wear clothes up to my neck”

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Actor KIRSTEN DUNST, age 41, on the “analogue lifestyle” she has with actor Jesse Plemons & their sons Ennis, 5, and James, 2…

“‘We’ve got record players. We’re just not a ‘Siri, play whatever’ household,’ Dunst says. ‘Our kids don’t have iPads. If they want to use an iPad on the plane, it’s Dad’s iPad.

And we’re not phone-at-restaurant kind of people. I’m not raising a kid that can’t have conversations at the table.’

On the character she played in 1996 on ER: ‘I thought I was like a street kid. I didn’t know I was a prostitute. Really?’

Asked about being 11 & getting to kiss Brad Pitt in Interview With The Vampire, Dunst laughs: ‘How about Brad Pitt got to kiss me?’

Of Sofia Coppola’s The Virgin Suicides, an offbeat, sexually charged coming-of-age story, she says: ‘I was very nervous because there’s a sequence where I’m making out with all these boys. Sofia was like: “You don’t have to make out with them. Cover your hair & nestle into their neck. We’ll make it work.”‘

 

The most stressful part was having to jump on Josh Hartnett. ‘I was like: I’ve never done anything like that – you know what I mean? – in real life’”



WORDS Kirsten Dunst Confronts Civil War Hysteria, Hollywood Pay Gaps and the Media Dividing America: “Everything Is Broken” (Variety, 3/4/24)


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• “Our youngest turned a year old while I was filming Civil War. It takes a long time for a woman to recover. My body still wasn’t my body when I was making it.

Now I’m either wiping an ass or giving an interview. There’s no in between”

• “A director had me in his office by myself & asked me this inappropriate question. Totally improper. I remember sitting there & knowing something was wrong but with no idea what I should do.

I was only able to avoid that predatory side of the business because my mother was literally always right there”

• “It’s so much worse for young people. Everyone has a smartphone & it’s harder to be yourself & be free. And they’re so worried about their brand, right? Even filtering your face & all that”

• “[I decided] not to change my teeth, not to blow up my lips or whatever it is that everyone wants to look like. I’d rather get old & do good roles. I’m not gonna screw up my face”

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🩸Footballer & Lioness KAREN CARNEY, age 36, who is sharing her story to break the taboo around periods, says…

“I had & still have heavy periods, so I had massive anxiety about wearing white. In major tournaments I’d turn to my teammates and ask: ‘Am I alright? Can you check that I haven’t leaked?’

That’s the last thing you want to be thinking when you’re going out onto a pitch in front of thousands of people, about to represent your country.

Even if my mate had gone: ‘Oh no Kaz, you’ve leaked’, could I have walked off or would that have made it more obvious? There’s nothing I could have done, really.

Periods had an impact on me as a footballer. There was a fear of humiliation if you leaked, especially as a teenager. At one of my first England camps we had to do swimming & I wasn’t comfortable.

I struggled to have conversations about my periods with women, so how was I supposed to talk to my male coaches about it?

One of the biggest problems was the lack of education. My mum would say: ‘You’re not the same when you’re due on’ but not in a bad way.

Imagine if I had known more about what it was doing to my body, imagine knowing it was doing more to me from a psychological standpoint.’

In 2022, after the Lionesses won the Euros, Carney was appointed by the government to chair a review into how to guide women’s football into a new era. Less than a year later the Lionesses switched from white to blue shorts due to period concerns in a move praised by current & past players.

Carney says: ‘On runs with pals they might say they’re more tired than usual & we end up discussing periods.

If only 6% of research is conducted by women for women, we need to do something about it for the next generation. My niece is 17 – I want her to be happy, healthy & have the best education. I want to be a role model & make her path as easy as it can be.

We really do need to have these conversations.’

Girls drop out of sport as puberty hits – and for 47.91% of young women aged 16-24, their menstrual cycle & period symptoms stop them from exercising”



🩸WORDS Lioness’s secret fear about wearing her white England kit while on her period (Metro, 7/4/24)

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Actor DANNY DYER, age 46, in his Channel 4 documentary Danny Dyer: How To Be A Man is horrified to learn that his son Arty, age 9, is a fan of self-proclaimed misogynist Andrew Tate…

“Dyer says: ‘Tate is the most Googled man on the planet apparently. There’s disciples, little youngsters going: ‘I like what he’s doing – I’m going to do the same thing.’

My little boy who’s 9, he’s really smart, but he’s got a phone now. So the other day his mum said to me: ‘Oh you know he likes Andrew Tate’ & I went: ‘What?’

So I went: ‘You like Andrew Tate?’ He went: ‘Yeah, that is a top G [gangster].’ And I went: ‘Right, OK. But you know he says really fucking stupid things?’ And he went: ‘Yeah, but he’s still a top G.’

It is flowing through every school, even here. It’s integrating into young boys’ souls. And that’s all they need, because it’s a tough time to be a boy. Boys are behind girls at every level – from early years to SATs, GCSEs, A levels, university admissions & degrees.


 

They’ve got to figure out sex & relationships in the post #MeToo era & that’s a minefield. And they’ve got toxic alpha influences promising them empowerment, making them feel good about themselves.’

About growing up with an abusive father, Dyer says: ‘When Dad fucked off, all of a sudden there was no father figure in the house.’

His younger brother Tony replies: ‘My memories of Dad is [him] just being horrible to Mum & the arguments. So the day he moved out was a day of joy to me.’

Dyer says he was jealous of Tony, who had a female best friend & played with dolls as a child: ‘He’s a lovely fella, a good dad & husband. He would not hurt a fly – must be the least toxic bloke I know.

Me & my brother came out the same womb, had the same upbringing & we’re so different. I’ve got so much respect for him.

Never in a million years would I have had the bollocks to play with dolls. Because it’s not what boys do. So I look back & think: ‘Fucking good for you, bruv’”



WORDS Danny Dyer shocked his son is fan of Andrew Tate (Yahoo Entertainment, 17/4/24) 

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Singer BILLIE EILISH, age 22, on what she does to decompress…

“‘Sex,’ she says. ‘I talk about sex any time I possibly can. That’s my favourite topic.

My experience as a woman has been that it’s seen in such a weird way. People are so uncomfortable talking about it & weirded out when women are very comfortable in their sexuality & communicative in it. It’s such a frowned-upon thing to talk about. That should change.

TMI, but self-pleasure is an enormous part of my life, a huge help.

People should be jerking it, man. I can’t stress it enough, as somebody with extreme body issues & dysmorphia that I’ve had my entire life.’

Eilish likes to masturbate in front of a mirror: ‘Partly because it’s hot, but it also makes me have such a raw, deep connection to myself & have a love for my body that I have not really ever had.

I got to say, looking in the mirror and thinking: “I look really good right now” is so helpful. You can manufacture the situation to make sure you look good – make the light super dim, be in an outfit or position that’s flattering. I have learned that watching myself feel pleasure has been an extreme help in loving myself & accepting myself, and feeling empowered and comfortable.

I should have a PhD in masturbation.

The song Lunch helped me become who I am, to be real. I wrote some of it before doing anything with a girl & the rest after. I’ve been in love with girls for my whole life, but I just didn’t understand — until, last year, I realised I wanted my face in a vagina. I was never planning on talking about my sexuality – it’s really frustrating to me that it came up.’

After mentioning last autumn that she was attracted to women @BillieEilish posted on Instagram: ‘Thanks Variety… for outing me on a red carpet at 11 a.m. instead of talking about anything else that matters. I like boys & girls leave me alone about it please literally who cares.’

She says: ‘There’s a lot of wanting labels all over the place. Dude, I’ve known people that don’t know their sexuality, or feel comfortable with it, until they’re in their 40s, 50s, 60s. It takes a while to find yourself’”



WORDS Billie Eilish Would Like to Reintroduce Herself (Rolling Stone, 26/4/24)

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Actor ANNE HATHAWAY, age 41, star of The Idea Of You – a romance between the divorced mum of a teenager and a boy band heart-throb (Nicholas Galitzine, age 24), rumoured to be modelled on Harry Styles – says…

 

“For some reason, we talk about coming-of-age stories as being something that happens to you in the earliest parts of your life. I don’t know about you, but I feel like I keep blooming.

 

I don’t know why we don’t have more stories about human beings blooming at any age. We’re always coming of age, all the time”

 

WORDS Anne Hathaway Wanted to “Tell the Story of a Woman Blooming” in The Idea of You: “Incredibly Moved” (People, 17/3/24)

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“I don’t want to be pigeonholed or placed in a box of what type of films I have to be making because of my age, gender and because I won an Oscar. I want to have fun, dammit”

FROM ROBINNE LEE, AUTHOR OF THE IDEA OF YOU

 

• “It was supposed to be a story about a woman approaching 40, reclaiming her sexuality and rediscovering herself at the point that society writes women off as desirable, viable & whole.

 

You’re no longer the hot one. You’re not the girlfriend. You’re not even the hot wife now: you’re the mom. It broke my spirit. I was angry”

 

• “I wanted to write a novel that challenged certain myths: that female sexuality ceases to exist after we hit middle age; that having kids makes us no longer sexually attractive; that women when they should be at their strongest and most prolific become invisible.

 

I wanted to look at what it is to be a mother and sacrifice your happiness and freedom for your offspring. I wanted to confront society’s codes about what women should or should not do or feel.

 

I worked hard on crafting a 20-year-old boy-bander who could hold my protagonist’s attention. I needed him to be confident, charming, articulate and witty. Creative, an artist, self-assured and comfortable in his skin. And vulnerable and believable as 20. I created a modernday Mr Darcy. Then I fell in love with him.

 

[I made my protagonist French because] The French are comfortable with sex and viewing themselves as sexual beings; with nudity and sexuality in the media. They’re at ease with PDA. They’re just more sensual”

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Actor KEELEY HAWES, age 48, mother to Myles, 24 – and parent with Succession star Matthew Macfadyen of Maggie, 19, and Ralph, 17 – says about starring in the movie Scoop as Prince Andrew’s private secretary, who arranged his car-crash Newsnight interview…

“It’s very difficult now to take yourself back to that [time before allegations of Andrew sexually assaulting Virginia Giuffre, then 17] and imagine through a totally different lens how that behaviour was viewed.

It’s easy to forget – and I was growing up in the 1980s – but we celebrated those men. Bill Wyman & his teenage bride, Randy Andy in his military suit. They were sexy – it sounds disgusting now to say it, but it was heroic.

I’m not sure those men did think they were doing anything wrong. They were quite open about it. Of course the tide turns and we all go: ‘Actually, that’s really not on’”

WORDS Men like Prince Andrew were once celebrated as “sexy and heroic”, says Keeley Hawes (Independent, 5/4/24)

 

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• “It was the publicist’s job to get you into as many things as possible and in the 90s that meant magazines like Loaded.I would turn up to a shoot to publicise a costume drama and there would just be a rail of lingerie. You wouldn’t have a press person; there was no one there but 20-year-old Keeley, who didn’t know how these things worked.

 

And you’d be put in a hotel room, sometimes with a male photographer, on your own, not even with hair and make-up in the same room. It starts to make my heart slightly. It was deeply uncomfortable. It makes me feel horrendous. I feel for myself.

 

We are so well protected now; it’s a different world, thank God, but it was just what we were expected to do amd I didn’t really think anything of it”

 

• “I’m now wrangling with my kids so they make time to see us! It’s nonstop negotiations as parents – it’s just that the negotiations are different”

 

• “Depression never goes away. I’ve become better equipped at looking after myself. Keeping busy helps, being forced to carry on, because inevitably it will pass. I’m not the poster girl for it, but it is something I experienced.I find it hugely helpful when I read other people’s experiences. It makes you feel less alone”

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Royal personage QUEEN CAMILLA, age 76, is patron of domestic-abuse charity SafeLives…

“At Buckingham Palace Camilla hosted 4 SafeLives Changemakers aged 14 to 20 to discuss how #domesticviolence in the home affects young people.

Camilla said: ‘You’re virtually the same age as my granddaughters. I was talking to one the other day and I was suggesting to take sort of pop-up shops into schools. You know, 2 or 3 Changemakers. It would be such a good idea because then they could all come & ask questions.’

Maya, age 20, said: ‘With education secretary  GillianKeegan we discussed ways they’re trying to change the curriculum. It’s vital we make changes.

Children need to feel less alone, feel stronger.’

The young advocates want to see kids taught about healthy relationships and coercive control – and relationships & sex education (RSE) taught at a younger age.

‘Children & young people want more from RSE,’ said SafeLives CEO Ellen Miller. ‘And they are being misunderstood by the adults around them.’

She said Camilla is committed ‘to stopping abuse before it starts and before it ruins lives’.

In 2022 Camilla helped host an exhibition with portraits of domestic-violence victims of various genders, ages & backgrounds. The documentary Camilla’s Country Life showed her guest-editing an issue of Country Life magazine in which she drew attention to domestic violence in rural areas.

Camilla said: ‘It’s incredibly moving, so brave of these women, to get up & talk about it when some of them have sat on it for years & years.

People think it doesn’t happen to men, but it jolly well does.

In the countryside, it’s not all rosy. There are darker things happening, especially in areas where they don’t get quite as much attention as they do in big cities’”

WORDS Camilla’s back to business: Queen hosts young pioneers from domestic violence charity SafeLives at Buckingham Palace as she returns from Easter break (Daily Mail, 16/4/24) 



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• “It’s being able to spot when somebody is down. It’s difficult when you’re much younger – people don’t really want to admit, do they? I’ve found this in talking to older people as well – by talking about their experiences, it becomes easier”

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🩸Actor JESSICA BIEL, age 42 – who, with musician Justin Timberlake, has sons Silas, age 8, and Phineas, 3 – wrote A Kids Book About Periods (out on 7 May) to empower kids, destigmatise menstruation and encourage kids and parents to talk openly…

“‘People don’t talk enough about periods,’ Biel says. ‘I’ve always felt strongly that we need to normalise the discussion.

As a parent, writing this book felt like an organic way to engage kids in the conversation from early on.’

On Instagram she wrote: ‘If we grownups have the confidence to tell the truth about how menstruating bodies work, then we’ll give the kids around us the agency and voice to talk about their own bodies with confidence, now and for the rest of their lives‼️’

Comments flooded in over the book’s avoidance of the word ‘girl’. One said: ‘Only biological females can have periods.’ Another said: ‘Boys need to read this too. Boys grow up to be men and men are generally partners for women. Boys need to understand more about women’s bodies.’

Another said: ‘Why is everyone so up in arms about not using the word girl? I taught my 4-year-old son about periods so he can one day be a supportive partner or friend to someone with a period. Everyone should understand more about periods so girls and women don’t have to feel shame or secrecy.’

 

On Insta Biel said about getting her period [at age 11]: ‘I was so scared. I locked myself in the bathroom. I was crying hysterically. I called my mom and told her: ‘Something’s wrong.’ I felt like something was wrong with me.

 

Even though she had prepared me, I wasn’t prepared. I managed to do everything I needed to do that day and still have my period, so pass that around.’

 

Biel hopes her book will be a conversation starter that encourages body awareness and positivity around menstruating, something she didn’t have when she was young. And for Biel, it’s important to share with her sons.‘Getting your period is actually pretty cool,’ she says”

 

 

🩸WORDS “Normalize the discussion around periods”: Jessica Biel announces upcoming children’s book (USA Today, 8/3/24)

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Actor Abigail Breslin, age 27 – star of Little Miss Sunshine at age 10 and the 2023 film Miranda’s Victim about the rape that led to creating the Miranda rights – posted on Instagram about being raped by a boyfriend (see below). In 2020 she tweeted when a troll commented on her weight…

“‘Your words are the exact reason a 14-year-old me started throwing up after meals.

Btw, why are you so concerned about a young woman’s physique and why do you feel you have the authority to comment on it? [You could] cause severe damage to someone.’

Promoting body positivity, in 2015 she wrote in a blog: ‘All this stuff about Selena Gomez in her bathing suit is ridiculous.

Why are you commenting on a gorgeous, talented and smart young girl’s body?’”

WORDS Abigail Breslin weight gain: Little Miss Sunshine’s advocacy for body positivity (Sportskeeda, 29/1/24) 


 

 

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• [On Gomez] “How are young girls supposed to grow up normally and not feel bad about themselves and not develop eating disorders if it’s headline news that a THIN girl may or may not have put on a few pounds and YET still remains THIN? If we taught girls they had more newsworthy qualities than how they fit into a bikini, we’d have a lot more happy girls”

 

• [On a 2016 Egyptian Gold’s Gym ad of a pear captioned: “This is no shape for a girl”] “Things like this are the reason 9-year-old girls develop eating disorders.

 

Working out should be something you do for yourself, not cuz a corporation declares your body shape isn’t what girls should look like.

 

Interesting they had to single out females. Good job for preying on people’s insecurities and perpetuating body image issues!”

 

• [During Domestic Violence Awareness Month 2022 she posted] “As a DV survivor I felt compelled to write. I was in a very abusive relationship for close to 2 years… I was forced to pretend everything was ok & normal while dealing with intense injuries most people didn’t even see”

 

• “[On not reporting having been raped] I was in complete shock and denial. I didn’t want to view myself as a ‘victim’, so I suppressed it and pretended it never happened.I was in a relationship with my rapist and feared not being believed”

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Actor Cillian Murphy, age 47 – who walked the Oscars red carpet with his artist wife Yvonne McGuinness and sons Malachy, 17, & Aran, 16 – addressed his family at an awards ceremony in January: “Thanks for putting up with me – with the half me, the shadow me & the absent me, the remains of me when I’m doing a film like this or work in general. You’re always there. I love it. So thanks, guys” and said…

“My sons seem better adjusted than I was. More sure of themselves. I’m happy about that. For me, it was something that took a long time to figure out: that it’s all right to be you, all right to be an individual.

They’re really good boys. We have a laugh. We don’t do Dad’s Movie Night, but they like some of my films. They say all my films are really intense”

WORDS Cillian Murphy’s Sons Malachy, 17, and Aran, 16, Make Rare Appearance at 2024 Oscars Before His Best Actor Win (People, 11/3/24)


 

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• “It’s been the most important thing for me, having those kids and raising them.

 

[About his wife] To have a really secure, solid base is important. You have to have that safe place. It’s just like an island of comfort and ease”

 

• “That work-life balance thing is hard. I have an amazing wife – I couldn’t do this without her and her understanding. But it is a struggle. I think it is for any dad whose work takes him away, which it generally does, and which consumes him, which my work does”

 

• [On how becoming a father made him “a better person”and “aware of what’s important in life”] “I’m a father of 2 teenagers and I once was young as well so I recognise how tricky it is as a young person today in society.

 

It’s a very complex time growing up – things are changing a lot at a very accelerated rate. We’re all aware of the effect of the internet and life online. It feels to me like lots of kids’ life exists inside of this device.

 

The idea that empathy would form part of a curriculum is an excellent idea. Young people generally are caring and compassionate”

 

• [On being a teen] “I had bravado. But deep down…”

 

• [In his Golden Globes speech] “To my family – I’m the luckiest man and I love you”

 

• [To his family at the Oscars] “I love you so much”

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🌈 “TV and radio presenter Graham Norton, age 60, has opened up about being a role model for LGBT+ fans throughout his career.

The native of Cork felt he ‘didn't have an option’ but to be authentically himself since the start.

An inspiration to young people, he addressed the fans he
has helped navigate being gay in an Ireland that was behind the times.

He says: ‘I meet young people, some of them not even young anymore, and they go: “You really helped me have a conversation with my parents.”

I get that. If you’re sat on the sofa and your mum and dad find my nonsense funny, they’re not as far away as you thought.’

About keeping his vows to husband Jonathan McLeod, whom he wed in 2022, he said that ‘being 60 is old’ so ‘til death do us part seems more achievable now’”

🌈 WORDS Honest chat: Graham Norton opens up about pressure during early career as he became role model for LGBT fans (Irish Sun, 16/2/24)

 

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🌈 “Norton paid tribute to ‘all the people who stayed in Ireland to fight for the modern tolerant place it has become’”

 

🌈 “I moved where the gays were. I went to London. Where nobody knew me so there was none of that scariness and there were gay bars that were just on the street so I could walk in and meet other gay people.I don’t want to be glib about it, because those people who stayed [in Ireland], who went on the marches and did the petitions, are nameless and faceless and I’ll never get to actually thank them, but they did the hard work”

 

🌈 “Footage has resurfaced of the time Graham Norton opened up about his homosexuality and revealed he thought it was due to being a Protestant in Ireland.

 

On the Late Late Show in 1999, when he was 34, he said: ‘I thought: “I’m feeling out of step now – it must be the Protestant thing.” It was a revelation when I left Ireland and  realised that that wasn’t the Protestant thing at all.’ He said he never ‘really’ knew he was gay until he moved to England”

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Actor Kate Winslet, age 48, said over lunch about the weight-loss drug Ozempic: “This sounds terrible. Let’s eat some more things!”…

“In 1997, when Winslet starred in Titanic aged 22, comedian Joan Rivers joked about her sinking the Titanic. In 1998 Winslet tried to stifle conversation about her weight by explaining that she was a heavyset teenager who ‘sensibly lost the weight doing Weight Watchers’.

[About having an eating disorder] ‘I never told anyone about it. Because people around you go: “You look great! You lost weight!” So even the compliment about looking good is connected to weight. That is one thing I will not let people talk about. I pull them up straightaway.

[Filming Titanic] I felt I had to look a certain way or be a certain thing. Because media intrusion was so significant, my life was quite unpleasant.’

In 2022 she discussed being body shamed in the media after Titanic. She was called ‘blubber’ and was advised to settle for ‘fat girl’ roles.

Winslet said: ‘My agent would get calls saying: “How’s her weight?” I kid you not. So it’s heartwarming that this has started to change.’

If she could turn back the clock, she would tell body shamers: ‘Don’t you dare treat me like this. I’m a young woman, my body is changing, I’m figuring it out, I’m deeply insecure, I’m terrified. Don’t make this any harder than it already is. That’s bullying and actually borderline abusive’”

 

WORDS Kate Winslet calls Ozempic “terrible” as she opens up about past eating disorder (Independent, 9/3/24)

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• “In my 20s, people talked about my weight a lot. I was called to comment on my physical self. Then I got this label of being ballsy and outspoken. No: I was just defending myself, still figuring out who the hell I bloody well was! They commented on my size, estimated what I weighed, printed the supposed diet I was on.

 

[On how this “damaged her confidence”] I didn’t want to go to Hollywood because I thought: ‘God, if this is what they’re saying in England, what will happen when I get there?’It tampers with your evolving impression of what’s beautiful”

 

• “My daughter Mia, age 23, is very much her own person. Young women now know how to use their voice”

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🌈 On The Late Show With Stephen Colbert, the host showed the Rolling Stone cover of actor Kirsten Stewart, age 33, with her hand in her jockstrap. A self-described “openly gay movie star”, she came out as bisexual in 2017. RollingStone said the cover is “hypersexualised, left of andro and flips the gender script”…

Colbert: It’s a perfectly lovely cover. We were asked by CBS not to show it and I don’t understand why.

I want to say that you look better in a jockstrap than I ever did.

Stewart: It’s a little ironic because I feel like I’ve seen a lot of male pubic hair on the cover of things. A lot of hands in pants.

There’s a certain overt acknowledgment of a female sexuality that has its own volition in a way that’s annoying for people who are sexist and homophobic.

Colbert: I’ve certainly seen more revealing covers on Rolling Stone or Sports Illustrated.

Stewart: It’s not remotely explicit.

Colbert: It also violates public expectations of female sexuality as opposed to how you’re presenting it here.

 

Stewart: Yes, because female sexuality isn’t supposed to actually want anything but to be had. And that feels like it’s protruding in a way that might be annoying. But fuck you…
 


WORDS Stephen Colbert Says CBS Asked Him Not to Show Kristen Stewart’s Rolling Stone Cover; Stewart Says “F— You” to the Homophobic Haters (Variety, 12/3/24) 


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🌈 [On her Love Lies Bleeding role] “It is a moving return to form. Kind of like who you are when you’re 11 – physically; the clothes you choose to wear – before you’ve been pummelled by male expectation”

🌈 “I’m just getting back to that 11-year-old. It takes a long period of growing up to get back to who you were when you were a little guy”

🌈 “My sexuality is totally fluid. I’m all over the fucking map and I was [at age 12]. I wanted to be normal and hot, so I was like: ‘I’m going to figure out how to look like a girl and get guys to like me.’ It’s totally a normal story”

🌈 “The violence and shame women internalise then use as triggers for pleasure? We can’t get away from it. To think we know what we want in a way divorced from the patriarchy is impossible. [I’m] Vagina Monologue-ing all over the place…”

 

🌈 [On female bodies] “The coolest fucking part of us is that we have this ever-present and unclosable opening – we’re walking around with it and we sort of pretend like it’s not there, but it’s our greatest strength”

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🌈 Labour minister Jeremy Miles, age 52, who was “on the verge of becoming the UK’s most senior openly gay politician”but was not voted into the post, said of growing up in the 80s…

“I felt very much on the outside, very much that I couldn’t see my place in the world. No part of my life told me it was OK and normal to feel the way I did.

It was a time when the Tory government was finding new ways of being homophobic and oppressing people from LGBT+ communities. So as a young person trying to find your place in the world, that’s a hostile environment.

Life is a process where you’re constantly coming out as gay, in my experience.

Obviously, as you get older, that becomes more familiar and you’re more relaxed and comfortable about it. But it was difficult when I first came out.

I came out at university [at Oxford] to friends, and that was challenging but essentially fine.

 

Coming out to my parents was a lot more difficult and I think they found it quite difficult, and for a long time. That’s not the case now.

 

[On how leading the Welsh Labour Party would make him the UK’s most senior gay politician] It would feel like a very significant moment. If you’d been talking to the teenage me, I would never have imagined that to be remotely possible.

 

I think it’s also important that politics – UK politics and beyond – are representative and more representative than they currently are, because young people need to look at their public leaders and have a sense that they could be doing those roles in life.

 

And so I think – I hope – that if I do have the honour of leading the party, it will set that ambition for young people today who are gay”

 

🌈 WORDS “I found it hard coming out, now I might be about to become UK’s most senior gay politician” (Daily Mirror, 11/2/24)

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Former tennis star Serena Williams, age 42, posted an Instagram picture of herself in a bikini less than 6 months after her daughter Adira River Ohanian was born…

“Showing her postpartum body some love, the tennis legend is looking blissful while holding her baby girl. In the caption Williams reflects on her body’s journey from winner of tournaments to maker of children:

‘Loving yourself is essential. I find that I have to remind myself of that self-love through all different stages in my life. Right now I love that my body is not picture perfect.

I love that I smell like milk – that milk sustains Adira Ohanian.

I love getting to know a new version of my body. It is a change, but it’s a change that has been well worth it. So start this week, knowing that you are loved and that starts with you.

 

Ok, now I’m about to go to the gym 🤪’

Williams’s husband, Reddit founder Alexis Ohanian, commented simply: ‘😍’ They also share daughter Alexis Olympia, age 6.

 

Williams recently captioned a video of her 2 girls playing: ‘We all work out in this family’”

 

 

WORDS Serena Williams Has the Most Relatable Message for Postpartum Moms Who Don’t Feel “Picture Perfect” (Glamour, 12/2/24)

 

 

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• “You really have to learn to accept and love who you are. I’m really happy with my body type and proud of it. I talk about it all the time – how it was uncomfortable for someone like me to be in my body”

 

• “It was hard for me. People would say I was born a guy, all because of my arms or because I’m strong. I was different to my sister Venus: she was thin and tall and beautiful, and I am strong and muscular – and beautiful, but you know, it was just totally different”

 

• “I like who I am, I like how I look and I love representing the beautiful dark women out there”

 

• “How amazing that my body has been able to give me the career I’ve had. I only wish I’d been thankful sooner. It just all comes full circle when I look at my daughter”

 

• “Oh God, I’ll never be a size 4! Why would I want to do that, and be that? [Gesturing at her bicep] This is me, and this is my weapon and machine”

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Prince Harry, age 39, addressed tech bosses in saying:

“‘Stop sending children content you wouldn’t want your own children to see.

We need to get out of this idea that young kids, there’s something wrong with them.

 

No, it’s the world that we’re allowing to be created around them.’

The Archewell Foundation he started with his wife Meghan Markle, age 42, issued a video of them speaking on World Mental Health Day in October 2023.

Explaining that they’re focusing on what they can do behind the scenes to make social media use ‘safer, better and more positive’,  Markle said: ‘People are getting hurt – and people, specifically children, are dying.

When the car was first invented, there wasn’t a seatbelt. People started to get hurt, people started to die. So you started to change the car.


 

Archewell has been working on a support network for parents [who say social media contributed to their child’s suicide or abuse or] who have children managing serious mental health conditions as a result of their exposure to harmful online content. We met some of the families – it was impossible to not be in tears.

 

Our kids are really young – 2-and-a-half and 4-and-a-half – but social media is not going away. Everyone now is affected by the online world & social media.’

 

The death of 14-year-old Molly Russell – who took her life after being bombarded by self-harm and suicide content online – played a major role in pushing the Online Safety Act through the UK Parliament.

 

Molly’s father Ian Russell, Molly Rose Foundation founder, said: ‘Mark Zuckerberg displayed outright denial about Meta’s role in damaging the health and wellbeing of a generation of teens.

 

Like Big Tobacco decades before, Big Tech is actively evading the industrial level harm it’s causing young people’”

 

 

WORDS Harry and Meghan release video of Duchess telling families of children who have been victims of cyber bullying that “we all just want to feel safe” as couple front campaign calling for “urgent change in the online space” (Daily Mail, 1/3/24)

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🌈 Actor Marcia Gay Harden, age 64, said during the 2023 telethon Drag Isn’t Dangerous: “All my children are queer” (Eulala, 25, identifies as nonbinary; Julitta, 19, as fluid and twin Hudson as gay). Harden says she “always will be” an LGBT+ activist…

“[Being on the telethon] I got so much hate mail and so much how I’m ‘grooming my kids’– all this, that and the other. The response from each one of my kids was: ‘Work it, Mom. You’re doing something right if that’s happening.’

I often want to catch my kids, protect them and not let them learn hard lessons because you don’t want them to hurt.

I just have to stand back and go: ‘This is yours right now and it’s painful, but I know you know what to do. You have it in you and you can do it.’

You’d have to ask them how I am as a parent. In the day, they would’ve said ‘strict’. They would all say ‘hands on’ and they would not be wrong.

I want to be involved in their life. I’m not a helicopter mom who’s like: ‘Shouldn’t they get a participation award because they were in the soccer game?’ I don’t like that at all. Earn it, but I want the best for them.

Having a child will literally be the greatest masterclass anybody will ever have in love and the ability to love.

 

I’ve learned to accept each of my kids for the beauty that they are and dispel expectation. At the end of the day, it’s their life. I want them to be happy in it.

 

I’ve learned an awful lot about gender nonconformity and about what I was already understanding in my own life, even in high school. My first boyfriend was gay and too afraid to come out until later. Then I was learning about the gay community. Now the kids talk about the queer community and it’s much more expansive, much more gender-nonconforming, much more embracing.

 

I’m learning on a daily basis about that from all of my kids. They’re all artists on some level, very gifted at what they do. They all have an incredible humanity as well.

 

I like it when I feel like they’re seen. I’m really supportive of what they want to do and who they are”

 

 

🌈 WORDS Marcia Gay Harden Says Her 3 Queer Kids Inspired Her LGBTQ+ Activism: “This Hatred Has to Stop” (People, 17/2/24)

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Comedian Amy Schumer, age 42, who was on the Tonight Show Starring Jimmy Fallon last week, said in an Instagram post about comments on her “puffy” face…

“Thank you so much for everyone’s input about my face.

I’ve enjoyed feedback and deliberation about my appearance, as all women do, for almost 20 years.

And you’re right: it is puffier than normal. I have endometriosis – an autoimmune disease that every woman should read about.

There are some medical and hormonal things going on in my world but I’m OK.

Historically women’s bodies have barely been studied medically compared to men. I also believe a woman doesn’t need any excuse for her physical appearance and owes no explanation.

But I wanted to take the opportunity to advocate for self-love and acceptance of the skin you’re in. Like every other women/person some days I feel confident and good as hell and others I want to put a bag over my head.

But I feel strong and beautiful and so proud of this TV show I created. Wrote. Starred in and directed. Maybe just maybe we can focus on that… I hope you enjoy [my show] Life & Beth. Love and solidarity”

 

 

WORDS Amy Schumer hits back at comments about her “puffy” face (Evening Standard,17/2/24)

 

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• [On celebs] “Everyone has been lying saying: ‘Oh smaller portions.’ Like shut the f**k up. You are on Ozempic or one of those things or you got work done. Be real with the people. When I got lipo, I said I got lipo”

 

• [On getting liposuction] “I’ve never been famous for being hot. But I reached a place where I was tired of looking at myself in the mirror. Everybody on camera is doing this – I just wanted to be real about it”

 

• “Girls in your 20s, guess what? I looked like you too. Life is coming for you”

 

• “I’m probably, like, 160lb and I can catch a dick whenever I want. I’m not going to apologise for who I am and I'm going to love the skin I’m in & not strive for some other version of myself”

 

• “Anyone who has ever been bullied or felt bad about yourself: I am fighting for you, for us”

 

• “C-section. Hysterectomy. Lipo. This summer is about letting the love in. Trying to be healthy and strong for myself and my family. I want to feel hot too. In my prime. Let’s go”

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🌈 Singer Boy George, age 62, says in his book Karma: My Autobiography: “By about age 6, I knew I was gay and so did everyone else. Though I was bullied for being effeminate and pretty, I never really wished I was straight. Of course I knew I had to keep it quiet” and…

“‘In the 1970s there was a sense that I should get on with my gay business over there in the corner and not talk about it.

That was never going to work. As a kid I went to Sunday school in one of Mum’s hats. Her friend said: “Do you know what he’s wearing?”

“I do,” she said defiantly.

When I left the house, Mum said: “Look what he’s wearing.”

Dad would lower his newspaper and say: “Up to him if he wants to get beat up.”

Being the gay) middle child in a London Irish family was less of a big deal than you might think though.’

 

The family was aware of George’s sexuality but hadn’t discussed it with him: ‘My dad announced my “homosexuality” to my brothers in his van. Turning down the radio, he said: “You know, your brother’s a bit funny.”David chipped in: “Funny peculiar or funny ha ha?”

 

Richard corrected Dad: “You mean he’s gay.” Dad turned the radio back up.’

 

George left his turbulent home for a squat in London, where he decorated a wall with numerous X-rated pictures of men.He came back to find a note left by his builder dad Jerry and mum Dinah that read: ‘Nice wallpaper. Love you, son.’

 

That ended up being an emotional point in their relationship”

 

 

WORDS Boy George reveals graphic way his parents discovered he was gay (Metro, 9/1/24)

 

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• “Violence in marriage was accepted and never discussed. I saw terrible things. One day Mum was under the table screaming up at Dad, who was holding a knife”

 

• [At a charity event] “Princess Diana broke protocol and approached me. She complimented my outfit: ‘That must have taken forever.’

I said: ‘I didn’t do it myself, love.’ I asked if she would meet Mum and they spent 10 minutes chatting”

 

• “Dad loved Muhammad Ali. We had a picture of him next to a picture of the Pope.

 

[At a nightclub I saw Ali] I was, like, full on in total drag. He goes: ‘Are you a girl or boy?’ I said: ‘I’m a boy.’ And he goes: ‘You’re a very pretty boy’”

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Actor Julia Roberts, age 56, reminisces…

“‘I waved and people saw I had armpit hair. It was a scandal.’

Though Roberts wasn’t the first star to unveil au naturel armpits in public (Sophia Loren was flouting that beauty norm in the 1950s), she is arguably the most memorable, not least for the amount of discussion – even outrage – that her hirsute appearance at the 1999 London premiere of Notting Hill prompted”

 


WORDS Julia Roberts Remembers That “Scandalous” Underarm Hair Moment (British Vogue, 13/1/24)


• Roberts on not doing nude scenes during her 35-year “G-rated” film career:

“‘Not criticising others’ choices, but for me to not take off my clothes in a movie or be vulnerable in physical ways is a choice that I guess I make for myself.’

Roberts had a body double for revealing scenes as a prostitute in Pretty Woman (1990) and asked for an explicit sex scene in Duplicity (2009) to be changed, saying: ‘It’s not really what I do, so if you’re going to ask me to do it, you have to expect it to be toned down. You know, as a mum of 3, I feel like that.’

 

She also once said: ‘I wouldn’t do nudity in films. To act with my clothes on is a performance. To act with my clothes off is a documentary’”

 

 

WORDS Julia Roberts says she has made the choice not to do nude scenes (BBC, 12/1/24)

 

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• “I have girlfriends who were having to juggle being at work and having to go into the bathroom and, you know, get out that breast pump. I sort of went through that with them by proxy. To be allowed the luxury of staying home and being with my family – I had a deep gratitude for that time.But there’s also something to my kids seeing that my creative life is meaningful to me. Going outside of the house and being creative is really important. And it doesn’t take away from my love of home. It’s another level of my life”

 

• “When you’ve got 3 toddlers in the house, you’re performing all day long with puppet shows and stories. I act around the clock”

 

• “I am a feminist”

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Actor Jamie Dornan, age 41, who hid when reviews for Fifty Shades Of Grey came out (it was “just ridicule almost”), recalls seeing himself on a billboard…

“I was walking through New York and I’d done this Calvin Klein campaign & there’s a massive billboard. Model Natalia Vodianova’s pulled down my jeans and she’s basically taking a bite out of my arse. [Laughs] Or looking like she’s about to.

And I just looked up and was like: ‘Oh my God’ & a woman beside me went: ‘That’s disgusting!’ [Laughs]

And I went: ‘That’s me, that’s actually me. That’s my bum and that’s my face!’

Rugby is a huge love of mine. But there’s also a sort of boys’ club side to it: it’s like you’re this kind of proper man and I’m fine with that. But there was this side of me that wanted to skip about and be a bit more free. The school’s drama studio was the most joyous space ever because everyone left their inhibitions at the door and you could muck about and play.

My dad, a doctor, was in the Royal Victoria Hospital outdoor pool for staff and he saw a beautiful brunette climbing out of the pool.

That was my mother. When, later, they were about to fill in the pool, Dad asked: ‘What’s the craic with the steps? I’d love to keep them.’ So he had the steps propped up against the shed in our garden for years that he first saw my mum on”
 


WORDS 10 things we learned from Jamie Dornan’s Desert Island Discs (BBC, 29/1/24) 
 


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• [On daughters Dulcie, Elva & Alberta] “I want to be someone they feel they can trust & say anything to”

• “Any chance I get to be doing the school run, I’m doing it. I’m not missing out”

• Insta post of him in a dress, wig & heels: “Dressing up with my daughters took a turn. Meet Jenny (with the blue hair). She’s sweet”

• “Being a dad is the best. I feel a healthy & lovely duty to provide for my kids. Making my kids happy is a good thing for my wife & me to be driven by.

Part of me feels like I need to put a cork in it after this. Maybe we’ll just – if my wife’s willing – do it until we can’t anymore. It’s all up to her. I do the fun bit”

• Insta post of his wife & girls: “I’m nothing but a pile of dust without this crew #internationalwomensday”

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Actor Christopher Eccleston, age 59, who talks about having anorexia in his 2019 book I Love The Bones Of You: My Father And The Making Of Me, says…

“As a divorced man, a single father, my focus is on spending time with the kids. Watching 2 human beings develop has been fascinating.

My daughter Esme [age 10] is, quite rightly, very quick to highlight misogyny and feminist achievement. It fills my heart with joy.

But what I’ve noticed in the discussions is that my son Albert [age 11] is very quick to trample on his gender. I had to take him aside and say: ‘Son, the people in front of you may have sinned, but you haven’t and you have nothing to be ashamed of.’

Because, as we know from the global picture, if mothers and fathers don’t have these conversations with young boys, they will gravitate towards hate when puberty kicks in. We don’t want our boys to grow up thinking they’re rapists.

The way people have sex is how they communicate.

 

I did a sex scene with an A-list actress and she implied, in front of the crew, that I was copping a feel. Because she didn’t like me.

 

I’m fortunate it happened before the Harvey Weinstein stuff came to light so I wasn’t put in the stocks for it. But I’ve never felt more betrayed by a fellow actor. It was an abuse of power.

 

As a bloke, a young man, you see the majority of people in the crew are male. Then there’s a beautiful woman who’s naked. So unless you’re a complete a***hole, you just continually ask her: ‘Are you comfortable? Is there anything I can do?’

 

But the intimacy coordinator on True Detective said: ‘I’m here to protect you too.’ I’d not thought about that. You don’t think that maybe somebody’s copping a look at you. You just don’t, not from a working-class northern British background.I was born in ’64, when men were really not the objects of desire as far as I knew”

 

 

WORDS Christopher Eccleston on the sex scene that still upsets him: “An A-list actress implied I was copping a feel” (Independent, 20/1/24)

 

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“I didn’t want Albert and Esme to ever feel there was anything they couldn’t talk to me about. I couldn’t talk to anyone. I s