ON CONSENT, PORN AND SEXTING IN PRIMARY SCHOOLS
“Dominance and toxic masculinity campaigner and dad-of-2 Andrew ‘Bernie’ Bernard, age 58, says schoolkids as young as 11 ‘share graphic porn’ on WhatsApp. One teenage boy messaged a girl: ‘I think your mate is really rapeable.’
Bernie, who started speaking in schools after the murder of his sister, says misogyny among young boys has worsened, in part due to the manosphere and online radicalisation.
‘Schools are facing boys’ access to porn, which normalises violence and in a 300-member WhatsApp group, kids aged 11-12 ask each other for sexually explicit photos of other minors and share adult porn. A lot of kids were added without consent.’
The likes of Andrew Tate promote male dominance. That often manifests into abusive, controlling relationships between kids as young as 11: ‘Adulthood is slipping into childhood. Most parents don’t have a clue. They’re shellshocked when I tell them the research.
About 20% of boys and young men think Tate is a good influence. He’s the top of the misogynist iceberg. There are so many others shouting into microphones influencing young men and boys.
It is often very much based on controlling women, the idea that: “Feminism has gone too far” and “Men can’t say anything.” It promotes manufactured male victimhood and the ideology that men are oppressed because women have too many rights. Women are nowhere near even or on a level playing field with men. In my workshops I bring up a debate around stereotypes.
Young men see people like Tate and others on Instagram or TikTok who appear to have luxurious cars and lifestyles they want. They [go] for the idea that women are below them.
What boys are seeing is that it doesn’t matter how men treat or view other people. They believe they can be successful with those attitudes and conforming to what they believe to be a “strong man” and taking strength from putting women down.’
Bernie says misogyny is mainstream and boys conform to the idea that men need to be ‘angry and dominant’. High-school aged kids fall into controlling relationships ‘as a badge of honour. It’s feeding down that empathy is a weakness. A girl shouldn’t have a mind of her own or wear what she wants. It’s almost step-by-step coercive control. A lot of content around young men and boys is that they almost own their partner.
Of the 27% of kids aged 13-17 in a romantic relationship, about half experienced violence or controlling behaviour, says the Youth Endowment Fund. Young people don’t seem to think it’s a problem.’
Male students ‘refuse to listen to female teachers’.
We should, Bernie says, focus on male attitudes towards women and girls and have stricter online safety rules: ‘We need to talk about what it is to be a man and feminism. Let’s create spaces where boys can be vulnerable.
It starts with empathy. Talk to young people about being kind and respectful.
Parents need to get more involved in what kids are doing and enforce boundaries’”
WORDS A schoolboy called a girl “rapeable” and Year 7 boys are sharing graphic porn on WhatsApp – parents have no idea (Manchester Evening News, 11/5/25)
ON THE SHOW VIRGIN ISLAND MAKING PEOPLE UNCOMFORTABLE
“On the Channel 4 series Virgin Island, 12 adult virgins learn about intimacy. Some viewers called it ‘excruciating’, ‘awkward’ and ‘creepy’, but Dr Danielle Harel said: ‘People aren’t used to seeing intimacy in front of them.’
Sex expert Jaimee Bell of audio-erotica platform Bloom says: ‘The show has got us all hiding our blushes and talking about sex.
Open, honest conversations about sex and intimacy are desperately needed in a culture where online dating, social media and porn are dramatically changing our approach to relationships.
The show’s biggest flaw is in its name. “Virgin” is a loaded label that can produce unnecessary pressure and shame. Some participants are self-conscious about their sexual status and feel losing their virginity is a “goal” they urgently need to achieve.
We all experience sexual intimacy in different ways at different times. It’s time to broaden our vocabulary. Intimacy Island has a nice ring to it.
There’s a shock factor in sending self-proclaimed virgins to an island. Shows about sex and intimacy shouldn’t have to be sensationalised.
We can help people strengthen their relationship with intimacy without forcing them through a crash course to pop their proverbial cherry.
So many of us – whether we’ve been intimate with someone or not – struggle with various aspects of sex. But it’s often not something we feel able to talk about. It’s a lingering taboo.
We need to start feeling comfortable having uncomfortable conversations about sex – which Virgin Island encourages us to do, let go of shame and acknowledge our insecurities around sex.
Despite controversial tactics, the show’s central message is of destigmatising sexual desire. Being able to vocalise our desires and fears around intimacy can help us build stronger connections.
Virgin Island highlights societal pressures like social media, dating apps, romcoms and porn that can impact intimate relationships in ways we’re not even aware of. Feeling able to speak with friends or partners about this can have a big impact on our sexual and mental wellbeing’”
WORDS “Unnecessary pressure and shame”: Sex expert on Virgin Island’s “biggest flaw” and what the show gets right (Cosmopolitan, 19/5/25)
AND…
• A viewer wrote: “This was the most uncomfortable thing I’ve ever watched. I hope there’s a season 2”
• “Guys if you haven’t already, you actually have to watch Virgin Island. It’s the best thing I've ever watched but also the worst thing I’ve ever seen. It’s so conflicting morally but get me a season 2 immediately please?”
ON AN ACCOUNTANT LOSING HIS VIRGINITY ON VIRGIN ISLAND
“On the Channel 4 show Virgin Island, accountant Dave, age 24, hoped to build his confidence, learn how to be in a relationship and tackle intimacy issues. He was the only 1 of the 12 participants to lose his virginity during the show. All aged from 22 to 30, they overcame emotional hurdles to take their first step towards sex and intimacy.
Dave explored the emotional and physical aspects of intimacy with Kat Slade, a certified [sex] surrogate. He lost his virginity to her in the last episode. Dave ‘respected her greatly’ and had ‘some feelings for her’ that didn’t develop into anything deeper: ‘They made sure we knew not to have goals that you can end up feeling disappointed about not reaching. They explained that you don’t stay in touch – it’s 2 weeks, then you move on. It’s not easy to detach from feelings, but an important lesson is to have those feelings then let go of them.’
Some of the audio of Dave’s first time was broadcast to the world: ‘In my head, when I was going to lose my virginity it was going to be a really intimate moment between me and, like, a really lovely woman. Now it’s between me, a really lovely woman and all of Channel 4’s viewers. It’s strange. But I don’t think it’s a bad thing.’
Therapy sessions, confidence-building activities, candid chats and some of the more intimate moments were broadcast.
Dave was ‘fine being recorded’ but found being filmed ‘a bit scary. But after one session, I kind of detached, moved on from the cameras and then was a lot more natural’”
WORDS I lost my virginity on Virgin Island – here’s why I don’t speak to my surrogate sex partner anymore (Daily Mail, 29/5/25)
AND…
• “Dave says, laughing: ‘I’m oozing testosterone now.’
He ‘screamed and threw his phone’ seeing himself talk about a vagina on TikTok but has no regrets about bonking on TV: ‘It’s quite nice having a unique story of losing my virginity. I think it’s funny. So many people have stories of their first time being atrocious. People put pressure on it to be perfect. It rarely is. It’s better to do it with someone who can let me know how to get better.
The first time with my now-girlfriend was amazing. It was about being ready for when you have more genuine feelings’”
ON PERSONAL AND SOCIETAL LESSONS FROM VIRGIN ISLAND
Writer Jamie Windust, age 28, says…
“Having sex the first time isn’t supposed to be good. But it SHOULD be.
I wish I’d learned how to have good sex the first time so my relationship with sex could have begun from a place of wholeness and gentle curiosity, not shame and desperation.
My first sexual experience at age 18 was bleak. The sexual landscape I was living in as a closeted queer person in a rural town in England wasn’t satiating my growing sexual appetite, rendering me in a state of famine that resulted in a frisson in the woods. It was far from romantic and didn’t teach me anything about my desires, nor another person’s.
The show’s 12 participants aren’t there to tick sex off their to-do list but to learn about their mental blocks and uncovering what’s preventing them from engaging in intimacy. Many find hugging intimidating or exposing. Surrogate-partner therapists help them explore going from hand-holding to sex while checking in and exploring what they feel in the heat of the moment.
The Virgin Islanders end up hot and bothered, fondling breasts and leaving with a euphoria that’s unexpectedly touching to witness.
We tend to think being a virgin in your late 20s is rare, but 1 in 8 people aged 26 were virgins in the UK in 2018.
The reasons the Virgin Islanders (aged 22-30) have never had sex are understandable to those of us who have. For women it’s social media, unrealistic beauty standards and people they see having sex online not looking like them. For men it’s that they must lead and initiate sex.
Sex shouldn’t be something you feel pressured into doing ‘because everyone else is’ or you’ve reached a certain age. Sex should be rooted in desire, connection and consent.
It’s still the norm to go into your first encounter with unrealistic ideas about what sex ‘should’ look like, or not know how to start conversations with people you find attractive, or fear intimacy because of sexual or emotional turbulence. Virgin Island aims to shift these norms (or at least spark conversation around them).
The fact that Virgin Island exists proves that UK sex ed needs to move on from just putting condoms on bananas. It should encourage frank, honest conversations about consent, porn, pleasure and the physical and mental challenges that can come with sexual intimacy.
Sex is as unique as the individual having it. There’s no one way to have sex. We have to learn what we like and don’t like. I hope audiences like me will use the show’s message as a catalyst to ask: ‘How do I have the sex I want to have?’”
WORDS Why we’d all benefit from a stay on Virgin Island, the new C4 show helping people to lose their virginity (Cosmopolitan, 12/5/25)
ON THE VIDEO OF A MUM TALKING WITH HER KID ABOUT PERIODS
In the bathroom, mum-of-2 Tiffany Remington, age 35, talks openly with her 3-year-old about periods, capturing their exchange in a brilliant Insta reel on @ustheremingtons…
“Her daughter confidently names the tampon but is unsure of what it does. Remington says it’s designed to catch blood in the vagina and soak it up ‘like a big diaper’. Some people prefer using pads, she says, especially if the tampon feels too full. Then she asks: ‘So are periods scary?’ Her daughter responds: ‘No.’
The approach is intentional, Remington explains: ‘In our house we use real anatomical language such as uterus, vagina, penis, testicle, labia and blood so our kids grow up understanding their body without shame and desexualise these body parts.
We keep it simple and matter of fact, and we invite questions. Sometimes they go: ‘OK!’ and move on. If they ask more, we follow their lead.’
Remington learned about periods in the fifth grade: ‘I had the bare minimum understanding. They didn’t go in depth or provide many visuals. I walked away with the bare-minimum understanding. It was never talked about in my home, so I remained pretty clueless.’
Her first period was a mix of excitement and embarrassment: ‘I was 12 and wearing a white skirt at school. A friend quietly pulled me aside and we went to the nurse’s office. The nurse gave me a pad and encouraged me to change into my PE shorts.
[My mom insisted on my using pads.] The majority of my teen years I was too terrified to try any other period product in fear of disobeying her and hurting my body.’
The reel, viewed over 305,000 times, was praised. Comments included: ‘My girls were prepared. We normalise all topics!’ and ‘Both my boys know about periods. It’s something everyone should know about.’
Science writer Elena Bridgers says: ‘It’s much better to have an open dialogue with your daughter about puberty and periods.’
From the online reaction, Remington says other parents are working hard to change the narrative for kids around menstruation: ‘This openness will help destigmatise sex ed and empower the next generation with better knowledge, body literacy and emotional understanding’”
Watch the reel here
WORDS Mom Praised for How She Speaks to 3-Year-Old Daughter About Periods: “Open” (Newsweek, 22/5/25)
ON BOYS DEALING WITH PERIODS
From the Guardian newspaper’s Kindness Of Strangers column…
“It wasn’t my first period but it was within the first year of getting my period. I was only 13 – and when you first start menstruating, you never know when your next period is going to arrive.
I was away on holiday with my family, playing in the hotel pool with some new friends I’d just met. There was a boy there I fancied.
At one point I hopped out of the pool and suddenly this lifeguard, who must have only been 15 or 16 himself, walked straight up, put a towel around me and said really quietly in my ear: ‘You need to go to the bathroom.’
I looked down and realised why: my period had started.
If he hadn’t done that, it probably would have destroyed my entire holiday. You can just imagine the humiliation of having met a group of cool teenagers you’re trying to impress and suddenly you’ve got blood running down your legs. This was the 1980s – they would have pointed at me and laughed!
I will always be grateful to that lifeguard. I’ve always wished I could go online and find this boy to thank him – or thank his mother more than anything, as she clearly taught him perfect manners.He somehow knew not to make a big deal of it and how not to embarrass me. It was just done so beautifully.
I now have two sons and I’ve always said to them: ‘If you ever see a stain on a girl’s dress, take off your jumper, put it around her waist, tell her she needs to go to the bathroom and never mention it again’”
WORDS When my period arrived, a lifeguard quietly put a towel around me (Guardian, 2/6/25)
🌈 ON THE SHOW QUEER AS FOLK
Guardian Saturday magazine editor Joe Stone says: “During my school years I was encouraged to believe that being gay was a serious medical handicap. This was during section 28, which outlawed the promotion of the ‘acceptability of homosexuality’ in UK schools and nearly half the population thought being gay was ‘always’ or ‘mostly’ wrong. ‘Gay’ was a descriptor deployed when no other slur was low enough.
Perhaps it’s inevitable that many men of my generation grew up with shame coating them like varnish. Unfortunately, there was never any hiding my gayness. It shone out of me like a tea-light in a lantern and the most I could hope to do was deflect (every queer kid knows the heart-stopping sensation that greets the question: ‘Can I ask you something?’). At age 11, it was hard not to see being gay as a life sentence. Like prison, it felt inherently terrifying and degrading.
Then Queer As Folk appeared on Channel 4. The very mundanity of the conceit (gay men going to work, having one-night stands, falling in and out of love) made it feel revolutionary. For the first time I saw gay people living gay lives rather than acting as plot devices or cautionary tales in straight people’s stories. They weren’t ostensibly glamorous (Vince worked in a supermarket) but existed on their own terms, which felt entirely exotic and thrilling.
It inspired controversy, with the Daily Mail claiming: ‘Any nation which allows this … is hell-bent on destruction.’ Journalist Peter Hitchens appeared on TV to bleat that it was propaganda aimed at persuading the public that ‘homosexuality was normal behaviour’.
The characters on Queer As Folk WEREN’T normal. They were better. For the first time I wondered if my own difference could also be a gift rather than a burden. Queer As Folk gave me the permission to feel fabulous – or at least fabulous in waiting.
I’m not the type of person to bang on about ‘queer joy’ – but Queer As Folk was joyful. As well as funny, sad, poignant and sexy. At the risk of playing into the hands of homophobes who believe that queerness is a proselytising institution, watching the show made me glad to be gay. I began to come out, first to myself and then out loud. I wasn’t scared anymore.
Queer As Folk felt like the promise of a brighter future. A flare sent up into the sky to let me know that my rescue was imminent”
WORDS My cultural awakening: Queer As Folk helped me to come out (Guardian 10/5/25)
ON THE SHOW BIG MOUTH
“The 4 creators of the puberty cartoon series – now ending after 8 seasons – knew the show would get emotional but they didn’t expect it to be educational. Jennifer Flackett assumed Big Mouth would discuss periods, but it was when they worked on the Season 1 episode Girls Are Horny Too that the potential for the animated comedy clicked.
‘That episode put something in focus for me: it was stuff I hadn’t talked about with my own daughter. In talking asking: ‘Do she and her friends masturbate?’ I realised: ‘This show is different for the way we talk about things.’
To prepare, the writers read Peggy Orenstein’s book Girls & Sex.
Andrew Goldberg is proud of the concept of the Shame Wizard; for Mark Levin it’s the head push (when a man pushes a woman to his crotch in the hopes of a blowjob), which emerged in an episode exploring consent; for comedian Nick Kroll, it’s Tito the Anxiety Mosquito: ‘It isn’t necessarily sex related but it’s related specifically to teens and also to everyone right now.’
The main message of the disturbingly funny and surprisingly informative show? ‘Communication,’ Flackett says. ‘It’s better to communicate and really listen.’
Kroll says: ‘There’s a back and forth about what’s comfortable, what are you showing and why. I’m often the most prudish.’
In the What Is It About Boobs? episode, 2 girls go with 1 of their mums to a Korean spa. Surrounded by nude women of all shapes and sizes, they slowly start to accept their own bodies.
‘There was this conversation: how much of these girls do we show?’ says Kroll. ‘We showed the boys topless but this is not a sexual moment.‘There was a certain double standard about boy nudity and girl nudity,’ Flackett adds.
The last episode, says Goldberg, is ‘about these kids whose adulthoods, futures and lives are just beginning. They’re going off into this scary place but they’re going together at least.’
The main characters are based on Kroll and Goldberg’s childhood friendship. Goldberg says: ‘If the 2 of us could see ourselves now when we were 12 years old, our heads would explode’”
WORDS Big Mouth Creators Break Down Finale’s “Scary” Void Twist, Their Proudest Moments After 8 Seasons (The Wrap, 24/5/25)
ON HELPING BOYS & YOUNG MEN
Social scientist RICHARD REEVES, age 55, dad of 3 sons & founder of the American Institute For Boys And Men and in the UK the Centre for Policy Research On Men And Boys…
“Andrew Tate is right – about some things. When the misogynist influencer says: ‘Young men feel very disaffected and invisible’ and ‘Men’s issues are largely overlooked’, he’s right. When he says: ‘The people in charge of the world are not really interested in men’s issues’, he’s not entirely wrong.
We appear to be on the brink of a moral panic over the state of our sons. The series Adolescence brought collective anxiety about boys and men up to fever pitch.
Concern about boys and men is appropriate. And overdue. But the debate is too focused on the trouble boys and men can cause rather than the trouble they’re in. We need to make Tate wrong.
Boys start school more than 3 months behind their female classmates. This gender gap persists as the years pass – one reason I argue for a later start date for boys, since they develop later. Girls easily outpace their male classmates at GCSEs and A-levels.
Meanwhile the share of male teachers has dropped below 1 in 4. If we don’t want our boys looking for role models in the recesses of the internet, maybe we should provide more of them at the front of the classroom. But the education system is not boy-friendly.
The problems of boys and men are real in our schools, the labour market, our families. They’ve been neglected by policymakers, academics and the media.
There are signs of progress. The UK government’s men’s health strategy sends a powerful signal to our boys and men: we’ve noticed your challenges and are working to address them.
Identifying the challenges of boys and men does not mean ignoring those facing girls and women, including a stubborn pay gap among older workers, the risk of violence and harassment, and underrepresentation of women in senior roles. Gender equality is not a zero-sum game. Helping boys and men doesn’t come at the expense of helping women and girls.
It is abundantly clear to most of us that a world of floundering men is unlikely to be one of flourishing women. Far from a battle of the sexes, what’s required is for men and women to support each other and to rise together”
WORDS Boys are in trouble – here’s how we start fixing them (The Observer, 9/5/25)
ON SHOWING GIRLS’ SEXUALITY ONSCREEN
Director Jillian Bell, age 41, who co-wrote & directed SUMMER OF 69 – which stars Chloe Fineman, age 36, as Santa Monica, a stripper hired by a teen to teach her about sex – says the comedy “contains valuable information for young women and it’s important to show that women have sexual desires.
Teen comedies like Fast Times At Ridgemont High and American Pie have been dominated by horny guys.
Bell says: ‘It’s refreshing to show that women have sexual feelings. They’re sexual beings.’
She adds: ‘It’s not as fun for the guy if he’s just getting off. For some selfish guys, it is. But they actually would love for you to enjoy yourself too – and that’s actually the best sex possible. If I was a young woman and heard that, it would be a total game changer.’
Relating to virginal gamer Abby (Sam Morelos, age 19), Bell contributed to the script by [trans femme] Jules Byrne and Liz Nico.
Abby wants to learn the sexual position 69 to impress the boy she has a crush on, so she offers to pay Monica $20,000 saved up from her video-game livestream.
Monica teaches Abby things Bell wishes she’d known as a teen – the basics of female adulthood: ‘My older sister Breanna is who I went to to ask any question I was scared to ask anyone else. You know: “Why is my body changing? Why do my armpits smell? What is a 69?”’
Paula Pell, who plays a stripper, provided the film’s requisite gratuitous nudity. Bell says: ‘She’s like: “Do you want to show my boobs? They’re great.” I was like: “That’s the coolest sentence I’ve ever heard. We’d love to show one”’”
WORDS Jillian Bell: Stripper comedy Summer of 69 shows women as “sexual beings” (UPI, 8/5/25)
MORE FROM BELL
• “We need more stories about young women openly talking about sex. I wish this movie had been around when I was younger – I would have watched it with my girlfriends on repeat.
It’s my love letter to my sister and all the mentors who help us feel less alone on our journey to becoming adults.
My sister was my go-to for sex-related, puberty-related subjects that make you feel like a weirdo”
• “I asked my sister every scary question about who I am as a sexual being. Like: ‘Are these thoughts normal?’”
• “Women’s rights are just gone. So it’s really nice to make something sexual and positive – [that] just feels empowering”
🌈 ON NORMALISING LGBT+ PARENTS IN A KIDS’ BOOK
Ex-teacher CHASTEN BUTTIGIEG – age 35 & dad of twins Penelope & Gus, age 3, with US politician Pete Buttigieg, 43 – has written the picture book Papa’s Coming Home “about a young family welcoming their dad home from a work trip”. Chasten says:
“I’d asked around for books that looked like our family – you read 15 books a night and it would be great if just one featured a family that looked like ours. We came up short.
This is a Father’s Day book. It’s just about 2 dads who love their kids. A modern American family. It was important to me that the lesson was just: a family loves each other. It wasn't punching you in the face with the morals. I hope other families will enjoy it and I hope it brings a lot of joy to bedtime.
I was on a plane and the idea came to me how excited I was to get home and how excited my kids might be. I just wanted a nice, sweet story that incorporates a message of unconditional love for your kid with some silly things in there they'll latch onto.
My kids helped me write it: I’d workshop it and see if they’d giggle or not.
[On being the focus of culture-war attacks, along with other LGBT+ parents] Right now I can shield our kids from the internet. And we try in our house to leave the discourse at the door. It doesn’t need to be at the dinner table or in the minivan on the way to school. We don’t need to be talking about negativity. Why does that need to be in our kitchen?
The best thing we can do for our community and family is live our lives authentically to show people who we are. We’re just like every other family. There’s probably applesauce stuck to our kitchen-table chairs just like yours.
[On books in the US being banned and taken to court] I think about what kids like ours might feel sitting in a classroom where someone says: ‘I don’t want to read that.’ I don’t want my kids exposed to that when it’s simply a book about 2 loving parents going about their day and loving their children unconditionally.
I understand what we’re up against as a community and a country. Not to be the guy hawking his book – but a great thing you can do is request books like this at your library and school.
It normalises families that look all kinds of ways. It represents who we are as Americans. There’s room for everybody at the table”
FROM Trump’s Trade War Hits Hollywood (Pod Save America podcast episode, 6/5/25)
Netflix show ADOLESCENCE co-creator & writer Jack Thorne, age 46
& dad to a son, age 8, says about parents wanting to protect their kids but feeling their kids are foreign to them…
“There’s loads of conversations we can’t understand – the emojis, which
I spent a long time talking to young people about; that level of sophistication in terms of how they talk. You can imagine the 1960s felt like that: one group of people talking this way and another group that way.
[The Adolescence main character] Jamie is a tragedy. If it takes a village to make a child, does it also take a village to destroy a child?
He’s not just a product of the manosphere or incel culture. There are parents that don’t see him, a school that can’t help him, friends that can’t reach him. There’s his own brain and brain chemistry and the way he responds to it.
The most interesting stuff I heard from young men was: ‘Don’t demonise the manosphere, because it has made us stronger, fitter, more attractive. And we can filter out the more manipulative, harmful stuff.’
Having a discussion among young people about a spectrum of masculinity and what a man should look like feels vital. Because that culture is trapping them into: ‘This is what I need to be.’
It’s really central, this idea of 80% of women are attracted to 20% of men. A powerful idea. It gets inside what I felt as a teenager: ‘No one likes me, finds me attractive or wants to talk to me. How can I fit in this world?’
And if I’d heard: ‘There is a reason you feel this way – because the world is female dominated. Aesthetically you don’t belong in it until you learn how to make yourself stronger, better, more attractive’…
Boys I spoke to feel: ‘If I don’t have shoulders the size of Henry Cavill, then I failed in life.’
I don’t know if Jamie would have committed the crimes without consuming the manosphere or, equally, if his dad had hugged him 2 days before.
I lost a friend at university and my dad said: ‘I wish I could hug you.’ The problem of male touch is a story as old as time.
Jamie’s dad has a view of what a father should be – a provider, someone the kids can rely on – but doesn’t necessarily have the emotional input Jamie needs.
It’s the vulnerable that are attracted to [the manosphere]. Those who don’t feel they have any power or feel like they’re strong. And if you’re unsuccessful, any thoughts as to who you can blame for your lack of success are very, very powerful”
WORDS Why Adolescence Struck a Nerve (Bloomberg, 9/4/25)
Founder of EVERYONE’S INVITED, Soma Sara, age 26 – whose Primary Schools List named 1,664 (ie 1 in 12) UK schools where kids aged 5-11 submitted anonymous testimonies of sexist name-calling, harassment, groping, upskirting, sending nudes, inappropriate touching and penetration and the majority of teachers confirmed that kids under 9 are watching porn and using misogynist, violent, sexist language in class and in the playground – says…
“Rape culture is being embedded among 7- to 11-year-olds. We need to age down – it’s too late by 13. Lessons must be age appropriate, but we need to start young.
Child sexual abuse is mainly child-on-child abuse. The internet transformed childhood and the sexual landscape. To protect kids, we must educate them.
If just one kid in the class has a phone, they all have access to a world of porn and violence.
[With preventive education and critical thinking] if kids stumble on horrors, they don’t immediately believe it or think degrading, abusive porn is normal. They need to question stuff that toxic so-called alpha-male influencers spout – dehumanising content about taming and belittling women. It’s addictive. It has transformed kids’ idea of intimacy and relationships.
Porn desensitises many kids before they reach 16. They know what they’re supposed to do to each other and they’re acting out an often violent sexual script rather than using their instincts. There’s no: ‘Let’s kiss each other and see where it goes’. How can you be in touch with your sexuality if you’re following rules you discovered at primary school on porn sites?
There’s a lot of ostracising. Girls are either sluts or vanilla. Young men want to be seen and appreciated, not viewed as the problem. Girls had centuries of not being encouraged; now boys feel the same.
Primary school girls have beauty regimes – they feel they have to be beautiful, thin, vacuous and hairless. Boys’ mental health is equally fragile. They’re being told the only way to win in life is by dominating, hitting, taming and oppressing women, not being emotional or vulnerable. Often they’re told boys are now the victims and underdogs. Boys need love and appreciation.
We need to wake up or these children won’t be able to create stable, happy relationships together as adults.
The most important thing I’d urge parents, teachers and grandparents to do is download apps – TikTok, Instagram – and look at YouTube, anything your child might be viewing, and try to understand their world. It’s no longer an option to say: ‘That’s not happening in our family’ – it probably is.
Dads need to stand up. The message is even more important coming from a man. A lot of the time in school boys won’t listen to a female facilitator.
We want to go across the UK talking about relationships, emotional literacy, consent, boundaries and personal space, interaction and respect.
We need to get to a place where schools teach kids to counter the violence, hate and misogynistic porn they see online – and where parents talk about sex.
I have an 8-year-old sister. I want to do this for the next generation”
WORDS Abuse claims and rape culture identified at 1,600 primary schools (Times, 21/3/25)
🌈 Online safety campaigner ESTHER GHEY, age 38, mum of trans teenager Brianna – who had thousands of TikTok followers but struggled with mental health, which was worsened by accessing eating-disorder and self-harm content on X, and who was murdered in 2023 by 2 schoolmates, one of whom was drawn to videos on the dark web of real killing and torture – on upcoming ITV film Brianna: A Mother’s Story…
“[I wanted to ensure that] my family’s story was told truthfully and people could get to know Brianna the way we did.
Brianna was genuinely addicted to social media. I understand the signs of addiction because I’ve been an addict. Teens are often glued to their tablet 8 hours a day. That’s not healthy.’
In the film Ghey talks about how the devastating loss of her ‘beautiful daughter’ drove Ghey to campaign on online safety and trolling. She supports a ban for under-16s on the ‘absolute cesspit’ of social media.
After she does interviews, Ghey can’t help but look at comments: ‘People try to tell me what gender my child was and really horrific comments too. I’ve reported so many comments and get the reply: “They haven’t done anything wrong” [so the comment can’t be taken down]. Our children have access to those comments.
No matter how much love and compassion you pump into your child when you’re bringing them up, how much empathy you can teach them, they will go online and see the way people speak about others and might think it’s right.
People are uploading misogyny, hate, misinformation – that’s just the tip of the iceberg.’
She is calling for a public inquiry into peer-on-peer violence, why it’s on the rise and what can be done to stop it. She also looks at whether social media makes kids harm themselves or others.
Ghey campaigns for an age limit on smartphone use, stricter controls on access to social media apps, tougher action on knife crime and for mindfulness to be taught in schools.
She says: ‘I don’t believe any social media company will put lives before profit.
We as consumers have the power. If we decide to keep our children off social media or give them a “brick” phone, we can vote with our money.’
Ghey hopes the film will ‘contribute to the push for our children’s welfare online and off’”
WORDS Brianna film was bid to get answers – Esther Ghey (BBC, 23/3/25)
EXTRA CREDIT: INFORMATIVE ABOUT ONLINE DANGERS BUT INCREDIBLY HEARTBREAKING TO READ… \
• Esther Ghey: I lost Brianna twice – first, to her phone, then to her murderers (the iPaper, 3/3/25)
ON CONTRADICTIONS IN DISNEY’S REMAKE OF SNOW WHITE
“With Disney’s Snow White remake, it seems as if some of the producers wanted to make an old-fashioned tribute to a feudal fairy tale and others to make a revisionist, Marxist call-to-arms.
Snow White (Rachel Zegler), named after a blizzard, lived in a kingdom where ‘the bounty of the land belonged to all who tended it’. This has to be the closest a Disney princess film has got to paraphrasing the Communist Manifesto.
When Snow White’s mother dies, the Evil Queen (Gal Gadot) exploits her subjects’ fears to nab the realm’s riches for herself. Now this becomes one of the year’s most bluntly political films.
Snow White’s love interest (Andrew Burnap) is the Robin Hood-like leader of a gang of thieves. After he tells her to ‘stop thinking and start doing’, she sings Waiting On A Wish, about taking action rather than hoping things will change for the better. They develop a sparky Princess Leia/Han Solo dynamic as they duet on the catchy song Princess Problems.
Once Snow White flees her homicidal stepmother, her story turns into a robotic recreation of the 1937 cartoon. The forest looks like a Disneyland ride, Zegler like a theme-park employee and the CGI dwarfs like creepy animatronic puppets, photorealistic digital avatars.
Then it switches back into a revolutionary drama. The film’s split-personality problems don’t go away: half of it is set in a grimy, gloomy land where Snow White wants to foment a peasants’ revolt and restore a socialist utopia, half of it in a chirpy, brightly coloured fantasy realm of benign, beautiful aristocrats. There are self-empowerment anthems and jaunty 1937 ditties.
In some ways the identity crisis makes it worth seeing. But this muddled production will be enjoyed more by politics and cinema students than by kids hoping to be enchanted by Disney magic”
WORDS Disney’s Snow White has a major “identity crisis” (BBC, 19/3/25)
AND…
• “The concept of the Evil Queen being threatened by a younger and ‘fairer’ woman is far from woke. Snow White doesn’t dream of being a leader – she dreams of finding her father, who will save the kingdom. She still requires saving by a man and succumbs to the charms of a man.
• “It is impossible to make a woke movie when the central plot is so reductive to women”
ON CONTROVERSIES OVER DISNEY’S LIVE-ACTION SNOW WHITE REMAKE
“Snow White, Disney’s live-action remake, has seemed like a poisoned apple. Its world premiere had no red-carpet media so as to prevent stars Rachel Zegler, age 23, and Gal Gadot, 39, from answering questions. Since 2021 the studio has confronted criticism and backlash revolving around culture wars and whether it’s positive to be classified as woke.
Complaints about Zegler, who is of Colombian descent, being cast as the princess with ‘skin as white as snow’ echoed those Halle Bailey faced for playing The Little Mermaid, with some fans outraged at Disney’s push for more culturally representative storytelling. Ironically its narratives are often criticised for pushing old-fashioned ideals.
Then dwarf actor Peter Dinklage said Disney was making a ‘backwards story about 7 dwarfs living in a cave’.
Saying it had consulted ‘with members of the dwarfism community to avoid reinforcing stereotypes’, Disney used CGI to create the characters.
In 2021 Zegler called the 1937 film dated and weird, with the prince a ‘guy who literally stalks Snow White’. Now she ‘won’t be dreaming about true love’ but ‘about becoming the leader she knows she can be and the leader her father told her she could be if she was fearless, fair, brave and true’.
Disney’s fan base is famously highly invested and protective; TikTokkers said: ‘Criticising Disney princesses is not feminist’; the online tradwife community took it as a personal insult that Snow White would dream of something other than being a wife and mother and because falling in love was no longer her priority.
Zegler carefully worded her next response: ‘What an honour to be a part of something people feel so passionately about. We’re not always going to agree with everyone who surrounds us.’
Pro-Palestinian activists had called for a boycott of the film over the casting of Israeli actor Gadot; others criticised her playing a villain, the Evil Queen. Meanwhile Zegler posted on X: ‘Free Palestine.’ She was also forced to apologise after declaring she hoped Trump supporters would ‘never know peace’.
So Snow White has been a lightning rod for some major issues”
WORDS Why Disney’s “enchanting” Snow White remake is really being seen as a poisoned apple (Metro, 15/3/25)
ON WHY YOUNG PEOPLE MAKE DEEPFAKES “Good news about deepfake nudes (typically created by young people using free or cheap ‘nudify’ apps): teens understand that using AI to generate nonconsensual nudes is not OK, says Melissa Stroebel, head of research for a Thorn survey of 1,200 young people aged 13-20.
10% know a victim, suggesting that ‘it is happening in almost every school system’ in the US and likely ‘every town has had at least one person targeted’ – and 84% ‘overwhelmingly recognise’ deepfake nudes as abuse.
Stroebel says: ‘It’s hopeful that kids have clarity on this’ – in a 2023 survey, many men didn’t think fake nudes were wrong.
Roberta Duffield of Blackbird.AI deepfake-detection tools says: ‘Deepfake nudes targeting kids (and adults) are one of the most insidious and wide-reaching harms of AI. For young people still forming their identity, the psychological, reputational and social consequences can be severe. Education campaigns are needed to help folks question content before sharing.’
30% of teens who create fake nudes share them with kids at school and 29% with online-only contacts.
Last year the New York Times declared that teens are confronting an ‘epidemic’ of fake nudes in middle and high schools.
Young people, as digital natives, are more likely to be early adopters of emerging technologies like nudify apps and to engage in riskier behaviour. Motivations for creating deepfake nudes include ‘sexual curiosity, pleasure seeking, revenge’ and peer pressure. For a boy aged 14 it was to strike back at a bully.
• ‘I just wanted to see what it would look like’ (boy, 15)
• ‘I was dared to’ (girl, 18)
• ‘I was horny and WASN’T thinking straight’ (boy, 18)
• ‘Everyone will see it, they’ll be embarrassed and it will never go away’ (boy, 13)
• ‘As soon as everyone knows it’s a deepfake, all feelings of panic and fear are gone. t’s not actually you, so there’s no pressure. It’s a little stressful, but it’s not actually their body’ (girl, 16)
• ‘You control what offends you. It’s wrong to make deepfake nudes, but ultimately it’s fake’ (boy, 13)
• ‘It dehumanises the person, as you use them for pleasure without consent’ (boy, 18)
Since nudify apps became more mainstream, the majority of victims have been female, but young men have been targeted, too
Young people may be too ashamed or traumatised to report their experience.
Teens are more likely to seek help on combating harms from fake nudes (76%) than on coping with other online sexual interactions (46%). Most use tools like blocking or reporting but 57% approach a parent, school authority, friends or police.
Kids, Stroebel says, want to know how to protect themselves and their friends”
WORDS “It’s not actually you”: Teens cope while adults debate harms of fake nudes (ArsTechnica, 3/3/25)
WAYS OF TALKING WITH BOYS & YOUNG MEN ABOUT IMAGES
Boys and young men are bombarded by images and content that shape their sense of themselves and others, says the charity Men At Work.
Here are some questions to ask boys and young men about the stunt pulled at the February 2025 Grammy Awards by a clothed Kanye West and his wife Bianca Censori, wearing an “invisible dress”…
o Would the images you’ve seen of this event make sense if the roles were reversed?
o What would we feel / think / say if the roles were reversed?
o What does the man being dressed and the woman being (basically) undressed mean?
o What does the man being dressed “anonymously” – in contrast to the (almost complete) visibility of the woman – mean?
o Are the sunglasses significant in terms of who can see / be seen? If so, in what ways?
o Do you imagine that the relationship is an equal one? If yes, what are the signs that it is? If no, what are the signs that it isn’t?
o Do we need to know more about the context of this event to “read” the image in a meaningful way?
o If we do know more about the context of the image – the people involved and some of their story – does this put this image into a wider “pattern”? If so, what is that?o What role do you think power and choice play in this image?o What role – if any – do you think power and choice should have in a healthy relationship?
o Where else in life do we see the imbalance of “Who does what” / “Who is represented in which ways” that the image shows?
Thanks to Men At Work CIC for this dialogue plan and its 12 Dialogue Themes of: 1) Respect, 2) The “Man Rules”, 3) Being safe, 4) Friends/mates/bros etc, 5) What does money mean, 6) People – not objects, 7) Control?, 8) Taking no for an answer, 9) Safe & safe to be around, 10) Respect & disrespect in relationships, 11) Help! and 12) Future me: who & how
ON PORN, CHOKING & YOUNG PEOPLE “The average age people first see porn is 13 – often by accident,” writes Baroness Gabby Bertin, age 46. “Much of it is violent. Video titles prominent on homepages include words like ‘attack’, ‘kidnap’, ‘force’, ‘violate’ and ‘destroy’. Strangling, aka ‘choking’, is so widespread in porn that young people report it as a mainstream sexual practice.
I am no Mary Whitehouse. I’m a Conservative. I believe in free speech. Consenting adults should be able to indulge their interests as long as those interests don’t harm others.
But abusive porn is harming people. A whole generation is learning how to have sex, and how to treat the opposite sex, from distorted and often disturbing depictions. Porn is often cited in relation to young people’s poor mental health, violence against women and girls (VAWG) and misogynistic attitudes.
In my year-long government review I was astounded by what I heard. The teacher who said boys aged 14 asked her how to ‘choke’ a girl during sex. The schoolboy awaiting arrest for sexual assault who couldn’t understand that he’d done anything wrong. The nurse treating sexual injuries every day.
Men and boys are victims of this culture too. It is a confusing world for our sons, who are taught to reject sexist attitudes while being shown something very different online. Porn depicting coercion, degradation
and penetration with harmful objects – effectively banned in the ‘offline’ world of cinemas and DVDs – is rife.I urge the government to ban legal but harmful porn that would be prohibited offline. I recommend that non-fatal strangulation is explicitly outlawed.There is no safe way to strangle someone – even a small amount of pressure to the neck can damage the brain. Just as the act of strangling is illegal, its depiction in porn should be too”
WORDS Teenage boys are asking teachers how to CHOKE girls during sex – this is why degrading porn MUST be banned, writes BARONESS BERTIN (DailyMail, 27/2/25)
MORE FROM BERTIN
• “I’m not saying people shouldn’t watch porn. I’m not a prude”
• Porn is “‘rewiring’ how young people think about gender, sex & their role in society. Boys are ‘taught to reject sexist attitudes while… porn shows them that anything goes’”
On BODY IMAGE in the film BRIDGET JONES: MAD ABOUT THE BOY, starring actor Renée Zellweger, age 55…
• “Bridget Jones suggested being an adult was NOT about morphing into an exhaustingly ‘perfect’ woman who’d stepped out of a catalogue: skeletally thin, immaculately dressed, poised, never pissed, loud or crass, always witty and well informed. You didn’t have to have your shit together in order to find a relationship, build a successful career and be a good daughter, friend or mother”
• “Gen Z loves ‘Bridge’ because she represents the opposite of the pressure on younger women in Instagram culture to have a perfect body even though she was so obsessed by her weight that she kept a diary of calories consumed and thought being 130lb was fat. I hated that about Bridget probably because that aspect of her was realistic.
The 90s were hardcore for body shaming and weight regulation. There was zero body positivity. It was ‘be thin or go home’. The new film has thankfully jettisoned the fat-person-deserves-to-be-shamed theme, presumably because it’s verboten to admit that women still bend themselves into idealised shapes to be ornamental. The only difference is that now you don’t have to be a cadaver”
• “Some women celebrate Bridget’s candour about calorie-, work- and romance-related anxieties; others find those obsessions anti-feminist. There’s no male equivalent who expresses men’s anxieties and aspirations”
• “The passionate drunk-girl-next-door everydayness of Bridget is a spirit reflected, in the first 2 films, in the slightly slovenly doughy-cuddly perfection of Zellweger’s face”
• Bridget Jones author Helen Fielding: “There’s a big audience with Gen Z. My daughter’s friends are relating to her because the world has got harder for them with social media and they’re still worrying about their body but also feeling guilty because of body positivity for worrying about it”
• Renée Zellweger: “I went to a party at a supermodel friend’s house. She’s the 6ft-tall, lanky, long-hair, just zenith-prototype beauty standard for my generation. A girl, about 11, said to me: ‘Oh my gosh – you don’t have to have big boobs and a big round behind to be gorgeous.’ Her idea of the beauty standard was the complete opposite to what was sort of imposed on my generation”
“I wasn’t taking care of myself in my 30s. I didn’t make great choices all the time”
“I don’t think that Bridget is not fit. She’s got nice things in nice places that don’t occur on me without extra effort”
On some SEX & RELATIONSHIPS themes in the film BRIDGET JONES: MAD ABOUT THE BOY, starring actor Renée Zellweger, age 55…
“Zellweger first piled on the pounds and adopted an English accent 24 years ago. Since then Bridget Jones has stumbled through romantic disappointments, full-blown passion, pregnancy and widowhood, dragging with her a generation of female fans who appreciate the funny side of growing old disgracefully. Mysteriously Jones seems to be surrounded by the same friends who all believe she needs a jolly good shagging.
Jones insists that she is now completely asexual. But she jumps on Tinder and purchases an unseemly amount of condoms.
Zellweger’s affair with 27-year-old Leo Woodall doesn’t entirely ring true. Much fun is made of his wet-shirt moment, echoing Colin Firth’s turn in Pride And Prejudice.
There are a handful of chuckles (often at the expense of an intimate medical condition of Jones’s daughter Mabel, age 6, who is taught how to pronounce ‘syphilis’ by gynaecologist Emma Thompson)”
WORDS Bridget Jones: Mad About the Boy (Film Review, 19/2/25)
AND MORE…
• A friend signs Jones up to Tinder as: “Tragic widow seeks sexual reawakening”
• “Over the years we’ve come to terms with the normalised sexual harassment and fat shaming in Bridget Jones books and movies, from bum-patting in the work lift and Hugh Grant’s Daniel Cleaver abusing his power as Bridget’s boss – and don’t get us started on the constant obsessing over her weight”
• “Jones has a red-hot summer fling with a man 20 years her junior. Here is a fiftysomething who, though she might have all the usual hangups about her body image and ageing, would never dream of letting them impact on her unadulterated enjoyment of sex”
• Renée Zellweger on Bridget Jones author Helen Fielding: “She was sort of pushing back and making fun of all the noise. It was a symptom of that moment where the media was just throwing out this image: here’s the paradigm for beauty and success you’re meant to conform to. Bridget subverts that notion”
“It’s an inevitability, isn’t it? Society evolves and so does the girl”
ON CHILD MARRIAGE “The star of a film about a schoolgirl forced to marry an older man is evangelical about her role – despite the fact that her Kenyan community might see it as a betrayal and treat her as an outcast.
The film highlights how accepted child marriage is despite being against the law.
Michelle Lemuya Ikeny, age 15, said: ‘I want the film to spark conversation. It’s not something people want to talk about.’
She plays Nawi, 13, in this coming-of-age film set in rural Turkana, where 1 in 4 girls are married before 18.
Ikeny says: ‘So many of my friends had to leave school or never went to school because someone paid a dowry to marry them, so their father married them off.’
Last year she won an Africa Movie Academy Award for best promising actor.
After Nawi finds out that her exam results are top in the county, she hears that her father is selling her to a wealthy man, Shadrack, in exchange for ‘60 sheep, 8 camels and 100 goats’.
Nawi smears blood on her legs on her wedding night to fake a period then runs away to go to high school in Nairobi. She outsmarts her furious father and Shadtrack then confronts them after learning that her baby sister has been promised to Shadrack as a replacement bride.
When Nawi’s classmate doesn’t show up for an exam, boys joke that she’s ‘busy making babies’.
The story was written by Milcah Cherotich, whose sister was forced into marriage at 14 and gave birth at 15. The child died while being carried on her back: ‘She lived a life that was not hers. A life designed by my parents and her husband. Those are things I wanted to change.’
Backlash is expected, she says.
Watching it with her uncle – a supporter of child marriage – Cherotich said: ‘After 55 minutes he was crying. I was rejoicing, thinking: “At least 1 man has been touched.”
In sub-Saharan Africa 1 in 3 girls marry before 18. Globally 1 in 5 women aged 20-24 were married as girls vs nearly 1 in 4 10 years ago.
Ikeny believes the film can change lives: ‘When you watch it, try to put yourself in the shoes of Nawi, of all those 640 million girls. When you’re young you have so many dreams’”
WORDS Teenage actress takes on child marriage in role mirroring real life (BBC, 26/1/25)
ON THE CLASSIC 1970s HANDBOOK “Sex positivity, polyamory, threesomes: the extent to which they’re now more acceptable has a lot to do with Alex Comfort. In 1972 the British physician published THE JOY OF SEX, the first popular book in English that explained and celebrated the art of making love.
A coffee table how-to guide with tasteful drawings of a naked couple in a range of sexual positions, it became an international bestseller and helped shift perceptions of sex along the procreational-recreational axis.
Now it’s the subject of an upcoming comedy by Sharon Maguire.
‘We didn’t have The Joy of Sex in my house growing up because [we were] Irish Catholic. Sex wasn’t mentioned, never mind a book about it,’ she says.
The film focuses on the love triangle between Comfort, his wife Ruth and her best friend Jane Henderson, Comfort’s lover and collaborator.
The middle-aged couple took Polaroids of their bedroom exploits, which Comfort, thinking they could be used, proudly showed his publishers, much to their distress.
Instead 2 illustrators drew the graphic scenes with porn models who ‘kept pouting at the camera’, says Maguire. That wasn’t
deemed suitable for the target audience of loving couples. So one illustrator, Charles Raymond, volunteered with his wife to re-enact Comfort and Henderson’s sex life while the other illustrator drew them.‘It sounds like a sex romp but it was well intentioned. There was really nothing like it. No textbooks, even medical ones – no illustrations, no pictures,’ says Maguire.Hippyishly hirsute, Raymond no doubt helped establish beards as a symbol of virility in the 1970s.
Comfort found sex hard to talk about.He liked to compare sex to cooking: knowing what to do in the kitchen results in better meals, so knowing what to do in the bedroom can lead to a happier life.He would have been pleased that unorthodox forms of sexuality are ‘more out in the open,’ says Maguire. ‘But for all the complications of sex, love and desire we all experience, monogamy remains the norm.’The sexual revolution he envisaged never quite materialised”
WORDS “They were trying to do 200 different poses during power cuts”: Bridget Jones director takes on The Joy of Sex (Guardian, 9/2/25)
🌈 “Powerful speeches, trans acceptance, queer joy & some frankly amazing outfits… Here are LGBT+ MOMENTS from the 2025 Golden Globes you need to know about:
1) Karla Sofía Gascón honours trans community…
Star of trans musical drama Emilia Pérez, the trans actor accepted the Best Motion Picture – Musical Or Comedy award, saying she wore a yellow and orange Saint Laurent gown because she wanted the trans community to know that: ‘Light always wins over darkness. You can beat us up but you can never take away our soul, our existence, our identity…
I want to say to you – raise your voice and say: ‘I am who I am, not who you want!’
2) Wicked brings queer joy despite being ‘snubbed’…
The highest-grossing adaptation of a Broadway musical featuring an out LGBTQ+ actor, Cynthia Erivo, Wicked took home only 1 award: Cinematic and Box Office Achievement. Presenters Jeff Goldblum and MichelleYeoh filled their time with fun moments featuring LGBTQ+ terminology
3) Baby Reindeer wins 2 awards…
The hit Netflix show’s creator and star Richard Gadd won Best Limited TV Series and JessicaGunning won Best Supporting Female Actor for playing a stalker. Gadd, who is bisexual, said fans’ support ‘means the world’ to him
4) Jodie Foster dedicates win to wife and sons…
Speaking of her sons Kit & Charlie’s support, Foster dedicated the Best Actress In A Limited Series award for True Detective: Night Country to ‘the love of my life, Alex’ (her wife AlexHedison)
5) Queer Eye star stuns in new gown…
Jonathan Van Ness showed up in a gorgeous Siriano gown that hung beautifully on him
Honourable mentions
* The stars of The Substance, ‘divas’ Demi Moore and Margaret Qualley, reenacted their characters’ tensions, creating a significantly camp and funny moment that delighted viewers
* Actor Andrew Garfield set Gay Twitter on fire by giving a smouldering look to the camera while slowly putting on a very sexy pair of glasses and adjusting the neckline of his partially unbuttoned shirt. The clip took the internet by storm”
🌈 WORDS The most iconic LGBTQ+ moments at the 2025 Golden Globes – including Jeff Goldblum saying “zaddy” (PinkNews, 6/1/25)