Government consultation on sex education – Outspoken responses
A crucial turning point for sex education in the UK was 7 November 2018, the deadline for the Department for Education's consultation about its proposed new guidance for relationships and sex education (RSE).
The last time sex education was updated was the year 2000 – before the advent of smartphones and online porn. This consultation allowed everyone – adults, young people, parents, teachers – to have their say on what is important to include in sex ed, and to emphasise the need for questioning and changing our culture by tackling such issues as:
the impact of pornography
LGBT inclusivity, sexual orientation, family diversity
Below are the consultation questions followed by responses from Outspoken Sex Ed as well from Teaching Lifeskills, which is run by Outspoken co-founder Yoan Reed…
Do you agree that the content of Relationships Education in paragraphs 50-57 is age-appropriate for primary school pupils?
OUTSPOKEN SEX ED: Disagree. The term “age appropriate” is often a question of “stage not age”, given that some subjects need to be brought up preemptively, before onset, or on a sliding scale of preparedness or timeliness.
There should be reference to the importance of gender equality.
After “families of many forms” add: “including those headed by adults who are LGBT, single, mixed race, foster/carer etc”.
These points should be made:
• “Establishing personal space and boundaries, showing respect and understanding the difference between safe and unwanted touching are the forerunners of learning about consent.”
• “The fact that children will find or be shown pornography should be addressed, including advice about developing safeguarding practices and resilience and talking to a trusted adult about disturbing images so that children can process and contextualise their reactions.”
• “Learning correct names for body parts from the start of primary school is a form of early intervention, a safeguarding measure that arms children with self-knowledge and the ability to articulate what happens with their body. This awareness and expressiveness serves as a deterrent to possible perpetrators and signals a child’s potential for confiding in a trusted adult.”
Delete “virtues” – the use of this word in inverted commas introduces moralistic judgement and religious implication. Appearing eight times in the guidance, this loaded word is not appropriate, and in the Foreword it is associated with “self-sacrifice” – a behaviour or attitude which can make children vulnerable to abuse. Instead use the terms “values”, eg equality and respect, and “skills”.
TEACHING LIFESKILLS: Agree.
Yes. It does, however, omit some very important content areas and lacks effective guidance on the timeliness of content.
Content: Although the content set out in the draft guidance is age-appropriate it does not fully include all the important educational aspects of relationships and health. The most important omissions from the draft are the topics of learning about the body that includes the correct names for genitalia (vulva, vagina, penis, testicles), and human reproduction (womb, ovaries, eggs, sperm, ejaculation) as part of the human life cycle. Without this learning, children are not able to learn about their bodies’ natural development or use correct language to voice concerns about those areas of their bodies. This poses a serious impact on their safeguarding and self-knowledge. In addition, the draft content mentions the need for children “to respond safely to adults they may encounter who they do not know” which in terms of safeguarding misses the point of children keeping safe from adults who they DO know. We know from current research and from sexually abused victim accounts that child sexual abuse mainly occur within families and family relationships and thus, the guidance expanding on this particular point.
In regards to what pupils should know about respectful relationships “that in school and in wider society they can expect to be treated with respect by others, and that in turn they should show due respect to others, including those in positions of authority.” the guidance needs to reflect the fact that the people who pose a risk of abuse to children are most often people who are in a positions of authority and this point therefore need to be amended.
In regards to what pupils should know about online relationships “the rules and principles for keeping safe online, how to recognise risks, harmful content and contact, and how to report them.” needs to include reference to teachers being able to talk about the harmful exposure of pornography that some pupils’ experiences during primary school. From my practice experience, and supported by current research, some primary school pupils have accessed or been exposed to online pornography and are disturbed and/or fearful of the consequences of these experiences. The guidance should acknowledge the lived experiences of pupils and allow teachers the opportunity to offer advice on “rules and principles” not just on harmful online content, but specifically mention “pornography” so that teachers feel enabled to approach the topic and respond to the needs of pupils and guide them to effective support and reporting.
In regards to what pupils should know about families and people who care for me: “that others’ families, either in school or in the wider world, sometimes look different from their family, but that they should respect those differences and know that other children’s families are also characterised by love and care for them.that stable, caring relationships, which may be of different types, are at the heart of happy families, and are important for children’s security as they grow up.that marriage/civil partnership represents a formal and legally recognised commitment of two people to each other which is intended to be lifelong.”
Should include the terminology of LGBT to protect the pupils whose family represent LGBT.
Timeliness: With the flexibility given to schools to form their own curriculum the guidance does not offer enough structure to ensue that content is delivered at critical developmental points in children’s primary education. The “end of primary” must be broken into age groups, year groups or key stages so that schools have more guidance in planning curriculum to meet the needs of the pupils at age and developmentally appropriate stages. For example: Young children will naturally be interested in learning about their own bodies and how they came to be (where babies come from) and it is paramount that children learn about the physical and emotional changes in puberty before they encounter them. For example, many girls experience menarche before the end of primary school and need relevant education about menstruation before they experience this. Without effective stage/age guidance, schools may not feel able to answer children’s questions and risk deliver important content too late.
Do you agree that the content of Relationships Education as set out in paragraphs 50-57 will provide primary school pupils with sufficient knowledge to help them have positive relationships?
OUTSPOKEN SEX ED: Strongly disagree.
Include guidelines on:
• using correct names for body parts (eg vulva, testicles, clitoris)
• critical thinking about gender equality, norms, expectations, stereotypes
• integrating LGBT inclusivity and visibility (eg using LGBT examples and resources, assuming some children are LGBT, signposting resources)
• the impact of exposure to pornography
• acknowledgement of sex as enjoyable
• menstruation and masturbation discussion – with girls and boys
In the "End of primary school table", add a bullet point discussing FGM, because primary school-aged girls are at high risk.
“those in positions of authority” could be construed as encouraging acquiescing to coercion or abuse – so delete this phrase.
Under "Being safe" add: “how to develop safeguarding practices and resilience around pornography and talk to a trusted adult about encountering disturbing images in order to process and contextualise their reactions”.
Under “Online relationships”, include pornography as an example of “harmful content”.
Under “Changing adolescent body”, add: “the importance of self-knowledge around desire and pleasure, and the role of masturbation in self-care, physical health and mental wellbeing for both girls and boys”.
Change the heading “Managing tricky questions” – it presupposes that teachers will be uncomfortable and not able to communicate openly or answer factually.
TEACHING LIFESKILLS: Neither agree or disagree.
Agree to some extent. Again, the draft guidance does not offer schools enough structure referring to timeliness, nor enough content to effectively deliver comprehensive relationships education.
Content: Point 55. Please use more specific language in the guidance, such as “LGBT, children in care, adopted children, children from different cultures” so that the family circumstances of all children are safe from discrimination and stigmatisation.
Point 56. “A growing ability to form strong and positive relationships with others depends on the deliberate cultivation of resilience and positive character attributes, or “virtues”, in the individual. Relationships Education is most effective when set in a school-wide context where resilience and virtues are actively developed, promoted and practised. This includes helping pupils to believe they can achieve, stick at tasks, work towards long-term rewards and persevere despite knocks. Positive virtues pupils should develop include honesty, integrity, self-control, courage, humility, kindness, forgiveness, generosity and a sense of justice.”
Please replace “virtues” with “values” as the former is a loaded term that can be interpreted as both moralistic and judgemental. For pupils who are experiencing any form of harmful relationship “virtues”, such as self-control and forgiveness, will not empower them to seek help. The guidance must refer to a common values framework in relationships education and RSE, such as British Values and SMCS to ensure a uniform approach to values – not virtues.
Point 57. As with my response to point 10, there are gaps in the content that will give comprehensive safeguarding guidance to schools. Positive relationships include the need to be able to differ between safe and unsafe relationships to which point the draft guidance does not refer to the correct names for genitalia. Schools need a guidance that supports teachers to safely and consistently use the correct terminology in order to teach pupils effectively and equip them with the knowledge, skills and tools to teach them bodily autonomy and safeguard themselves in all kinds of relationships. This includes learning about the criminal practice of FGM which most often happens to girls at risk when they are in primary schools (or younger).
Pupils should know about online relationships and being safe: As in my previous response, both sections need to make referral to pornography as this will reflect the lived experience of some primary school children.
Do you agree that paragraphs 61-64 clearly set out the requirements on primary schools who choose to teach sex education?
OUTSPOKEN SEX ED: Neither agree nor disagree. Paragraphs 61-64 emphasise sex education not being compulsory rather than setting out the benefits to children.
Sex education should be compulsory in primary school because:
• children have a right to comprehensive sex education, as set out in the UNCRC (UN Convention on the Rights of the Child)
• sex education, starting from a young age, is vital for children’s development, safeguarding and mental health, especially as an antidote to pornography
• sex education is interrelated with and should not be separated from Relationships Education
There is tension between assessing and meeting children’s needs (a sex-education programme “tailored to” age and physical and emotional maturity) and the preparedness/timeliness of preemptively anticipating readiness, eg before onset.
It should not be up to individual schools “to determine whether they need to cover any additional content on sex education to meet the needs of their pupils” – because all children need the skills, vocabulary and resilience that sex education gives them.
Primary schools need to “support” children’s “emotional and physical development” during “the transition phase” to secondary – but it is not clear how Relationships Education, Health Education and the national science curriculum are differentiated or can provide clear, effective progression.
Add “sexual” after “physical” to read: “pupils’ ongoing emotional, physical and sexual development”.
TEACHING LIFESKILLS: Neither agree or disagree.
The draft guidance offers a muddled picture of what is required of schools as the three subjects of relationships education, health education and science are inherently interrelated but differentiated/divided by the guidance without a clear picture of where and when schools should teach topics within the subjects. To make this clearer, the guidance should clearly set out to support schools in writing a curriculum that builds on a spiral format and with signposting to age, year or key stages learning outcomes. Underpinning such a guidance requires the department to define sex education as a subject starting in relationships education at primary and developing into secondary. This will clearly place sex education on a learning platform that recognises its importance and gives schools a position in which they can promote sex education rather than focus on what should NOT be taught. In comparison, the current 2000 SRE Guidance has a positive presentation of sex education that recommends all primary schools to teach sex education and, to progress the proposed guidance, this positive and proactive approach needs to be upheld.
To this point, 62. “The content set out in this guidance covers everything that primary schools should teach on relationships and on health, including puberty.” And 63, “The Department continues to recommend therefore that all primary schools should have a sex education programme tailored to the age and the physical and emotional maturity of the pupils.” are problematic statements because puberty includes learning about body genitalia, sperm and eggs and where babies come from and should be taught gradually and before onset – this is not clearly signposted within the draft guidance or the science curriculum.
There is conflict within point 63. “As well as consulting parents more generally about the school’s overall policy, primary schools should consult with parents before final year of primary school about the detailed content of what will be taught.” and “Meeting these objectives will require a graduated, age-appropriate programme of sex education.” The former assumes that sex education will only be delivered in year 6 and, the latter, that sex education should be delivered in an age-appropriate manner.
Point 64. Please highlight the importance of parental engagement in children’s education by making this a separate point within the guidance.
Do you agree that the content of RSE in paragraphs 65-77 is age-appropriate for secondary school pupils?
OUTSPOKEN SEX ED: Strongly agree. However, delineation by key stage or year (as with programmes of study for other curriculum subjects) will help teachers deliver content in good time to meet young people’s needs. How can RSE “provide progression” without teaching sex education?
Delete “virtues” and add reference to critical thinking and to “skills and values such as equality and respect”.
Add reference to consent.
After “committed relationship”, add “whether heterosexual or LGBT". The use of "stable and healthy" in connection with same-sex relationships in paragraph 71 is judgemental. Change “coming to terms with their sexual orientation or gender identity” to “asserting their sexual orientation or gender identity".
FGM should not be sandwiched into a paragraph on "grooming, sexual exploitation and domestic abuse, including coercive and controlling behaviour". It is important to address FGM as a practice – and in the context of the law, coercion, bodily autonomy and women’s disempowerment – but also in primary school, when girls are at high risk. This should be mandatory.
A new paragraph should address the impact of pornography:
• via neuroscience (the developing adolescent brain)
• as an industry
• as exploitative for performers
• as perpetuating unrealistic expectations of bodies and sex
• the damaging effects on body image, self-esteem
• in the context of love and intimacy
• as perpetuating sexual harassment and the degradation of and violence towards girls/women (see the Women and Equalities Committee report “Sexual harassment of women and girls in public places” from October 2018)
Under “Respectful friendships”: after “cyberbullying” add “prejudice-based bullying such as anti-LGBT bullying”
Under “Intimate and sexual relationships”: add “and the importance of consent".
Under “Online and media”, after “explicit material” add “such as pornography or ‘sexting’”.
After “violent sexual behaviours” add “sexual harassment and the degradation of women”
Paragraphs 65-77, referencing pressure and implying blame, must be rewritten to emphasise gender norms and inequalities.
TEACHING LIFESKILLS: Agree. However, as in primary school table of content, the content for secondary need to be structured to give guidance on the timeliness of delivery by age, year or key stage in order for a school to develop a spiral RSE curriculum. In addition, it is paramount that pupils are consulted on the topics so that their needs are considered as per best practice.
65. Effective RSE is more than just delivery of information and needs to be delivered by trained and confident teachers and be based on experiential teaching methods for pupils to develop skills and tools as well as knowledge.
70. As with my response to primary school, please change “virtues” to “values” as the former is a loaded term that can be interpreted as both moralistic and judgemental. For pupils who are experiencing any form of harmful relationship “virtues”, such as self-control and forgiveness, will not empower them to seek help. The guidance must refer to a common values framework in relationships education and RSE, such as British Values and SMCS to ensure a uniform approach to values – not virtues.
72., 74. and & 75. It would be helpful for the guidance to link and reference to the specific legislation and laws that are relevant to RSE, for example, Equality Act 2010, Female Genital Mutilation Act 2003, Sexual Offenses Act 2003 and Keeping Children Safe in Education 2018.
77. As previously responded, in regards to what pupils should know about online and media and being safe, the guidance for secondary needs to include reference to teachers being able to talk about the harmful exposure of pornography and sexting that many pupils experience. From my practice and experience, and supported by current research, many pupils have access or are exposed to online pornography and are disturbed and/or fearful of the content and their experiences. The guidance should acknowledge the lived experiences of pupils and allow teachers the opportunity to offer advice on “rules and principles” not just on harmful online content, but specifically mention “pornography” so that teachers feel enabled to approach the topic and respond to the needs of pupils, guide them to effective support and reporting while developing pupils’ critical thinking.
Do you agree that the content of RSE as set out in paragraphs 65-77 will provide secondary school pupils with sufficient knowledge to help them have positive relationships?
OUTSPOKEN SEX ED: Strongly disagree.
Sex positivity should be emphasised.
There is no mention of:
• the interrelatedness of pleasure and consent
• the importance of improving girls’ self-knowledge around desire
• intimacy in the context of a loving relationship
There should be inclusivity and visibility around LGBT issues such as identity and sexual orientation, with reference made to LGBT relationships when citing positive and healthy relationships generally.
There should be an emphasis on gender equality, norms, expectations and stereotyping.
Noticeably absent is talk of how pornography perpetuates:
unrealistic expectations of bodies and sex
sexual harassment and everyday sexism
the degradation of and violence towards women
TEACHING LIFESKILLS: Disagree. Although the guidance talks about the positive aspects of healthy relationships it does not include reference to sex positivity or pleasure, gender equality or LGBT.
70. Please replace “virtues” with “values” as the former is a loaded term that can be interpreted as both moralistic and judgemental. For pupils who are experiencing any form of harmful relationship “virtues”, such as self-control, self-sacrifice, and forgiveness, will not empower them to seek help. The guidance must refer to a common values framework in relationships education and RSE, such as British Values and SMCS to ensure a uniform approach to values – not virtues.
75. FGM occurs more frequently in primary years and needs to be taught earlier than secondary level. It is not possible for a school to “guess” the likelihood of FGM posing a risk to pupils, but rather, reference to the criminal act of FGM and where to go for help and support should be part of teaching about safeguarding at both primary and secondary.